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The Uncomfortable Science Of Sex Differences - Steve Stewart-Williams - #1120

Explore episode Jul 6, 2026

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Are Human Sex Differences Unique?

At 56:00 · chapter starts 54:34

The discussion drifts into one of the episode's most affecting tangents: research showing that parental grief tracks the reproductive value of the child who has died — rising through childhood, peaking a couple of years after puberty, then declining. Stewart-Williams notes this has been replicated since Robert Wright first discussed it in The Moral Animal. The case of Darwin — who lost ten children, with the death of his 12-year-old daughter Annie being the most psychologically devastating — illustrates the pattern. Nobody is consciously calculating reproductive value when they grieve; the proximate emotion of devastating loss is real and complete in itself. But the underlying evolutionary logic, operating invisibly, shapes the intensity of that grief anyway. This segues into a broader defence of evolutionary psychology's framing of emotion: the proximate feeling and the ultimate explanation are separate questions, and confusing them is one of the most common misreadings of the field.

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