Childhood obesity tripled in 50 years
Childhood obesity tripled in the last 50 years, coinciding with mothers entering the workforce en masse — Venker links this to the decline of home cooking.
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The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113
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Jun 20, 2026
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Has Staying Home Become Undervalued?
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Venker traces daycare from its origins as a Head Start programme for low-income families to its current status as an unremarkable default for all income levels [1] — Suzanne Venker "Daycare was originally designed as a last-resort Head Start programme for families with no other option. Over decades it became normalised …" 1:23:59 . The most striking observation: twenty-five years ago, using daycare required at least some defence, because people instinctively understood something was off. Today that instinct has been completely socialised away. Mothers drop off 6-week-olds with the same emotional register as picking up dry cleaning. Venker's care hierarchy is clear: mother first, then father, then grandparent, then nanny, then small neighbourhood arrangement, with institutional group daycare as the very last resort. The reasons are developmental: babies need one-on-one attachment, reliable availability, consistent responsiveness, and peace. A daycare environment — large groups, high turnover of staff, shared sleeping space, unpredictable feeding — cannot provide any of these. The detail about babies who stop crying at drop-off is especially stark: Venker argues this often reflects not adjustment but learned helplessness — the child has discovered that expressing needs doesn't get them met, so they stop trying. The quiet ones, she says, are sometimes the most concerning.
Childhood Obesity and the Empty Kitchen
Childhood obesity tripled in the last 50 years — the same period mothers entered the workforce en masse. The chemical and seed-oil arguments are a sideshow. Calories are king, and when nobody is home to cook, families eat out. The obesity epidemic isn't a mystery of food chemistry; it's a predictable consequence of removing the person who used to cook.
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