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Colton Underwood: I Thought The Bachelor Would Make Me Straight “I Prayed To God”
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Jun 16, 2026
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Backlash from The Traitors
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Colton loved filming The Traitors — he calls it his favourite project ever, partly because the show's campy, Alan Cumming-hosted theatrics are 'so gay at its core.' But the backlash was severe: fans mapped his ruthless game-playing onto a dark period of his past, creating what he describes as a slow-motion train wreck of dogpiling and false narratives that escalated to death threats against him and Jordan [1] — Colton Underwood "Colton loved filming The Traitors — but fans linked his aggressive game-play to a dark incident six years prior and the backlash escalated …" 56:17 . The production had to intervene publicly. Colton's response is measured: he has apologised repeatedly for his past, he acknowledges the audience wasn't present for his years of therapy and transformation, and he is not prepared to keep re-litigating it. He draws a sharp distinction between who he is as a television character and who he is as a husband and father.
The Traitors Backlash and Death Threats
Colton loved filming The Traitors — but fans linked his aggressive game-play to a dark incident six years prior and the backlash escalated to death threats. The show had to intervene. Colton's response: that's 15 versions of me ago.
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