Self-harm from age 14 to late 20s
Olivia experienced self-harm from around age 14 and again in her late 20s following postnatal depression, far later than most people assumed.
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Olivia Bowen: I Lost Myself After Giving Birth & What Love Island Never Showed
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Jul 14, 2026
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Olivia's Mental Health Struggles in the Love Island Villa
At 41:54 · chapter starts 39:03
Olivia entered the Love Island villa on an emotional upswing, her eating disorder still intact but her mental health more stable than it had been in years. She was still unable to put food on her own plate for the first couple of weeks — always engineering someone else to serve her — and was convinced her housemates thought she was a princess. But one day she just did it. She served herself. And then she did it again. And it was done. No therapy, no medication, no years of work: just six weeks of unavoidable community and a bit of nerve. She left the villa without disordered eating for the first time since she was 12 years old. Love Island, she says, will always hold a special place because of what it did for her in that respect alone — and she hadn't even met Alex yet.
How Olivia Joined Love Island — Scorned and Ready
Olivia watched Love Island with her toxic ex-boyfriend and thought: I'm going on that. They split up. She saw the application. Six months later she was in the villa. It wasn't about fame — it was a change of scenery and a way to prove something to herself.
Love Island as Accidental Exposure Therapy
Olivia couldn't eat in front of anyone for her entire teenage life. Then Love Island gave her no choice. Week by week she pushed through the terror of putting food on her own plate until it simply stopped being a thing — and a disorder that defined her youth just vanished.
Love Island cured disordered eating
Entering Love Island acted as unintentional exposure therapy, and Olivia's disordered eating resolved completely during the six-week show.
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