Lost 2 stone in weeks after toxic relationship breakup
After leaving her toxic ex-boyfriend, Olivia barely ate for three months and lost approximately two stone in a matter of weeks.
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Olivia Bowen: I Lost Myself After Giving Birth & What Love Island Never Showed
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Jul 14, 2026
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How and Why Olivia Joined Love Island
At 37:00 · chapter starts 36:32
Leaving school without a clear plan, Olivia had one dream: to model. It was dismissed immediately — she was told her body type meant glamour was the only route, and glamour meant taking her clothes off. The rejection stung. What followed was worse: a relationship characterised by control, isolation from friends, and pure neglect. On Christmas Eve, her boyfriend left her stranded at a pub and she came home to find herself locked out at 1AM. The final word came from his own mother: please never come back. Olivia lost two stone in the weeks that followed and was prescribed beta blockers and then antidepressants. Then, watching Love Island with that same man before they split, she had a thought. Six months after leaving him, she applied. She was scorned, scared, and faking every ounce of confidence she showed in that villa.
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