270–350 days/year away
Navy SEAL operators are away from home a minimum of 270 days per year, with some spending up to 350 days deployed or training.
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Navy SEAL: “Not Killing People Is Hard” - DJ Shipley - #1112
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Jun 18, 2026
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The Fall from Grace: Identity Collapse and Spiral After Retirement
At 1:56:30 · chapter starts 1:52:00
Post-retirement, with no mission, no group, no routine, DJ begins cheating, spiraling into depression, and coming to terms with having no transferable skills and no sense of self.
Suicidal ideation 2013–2021
DJ Shipley wanted to kill himself every day from approximately 2013 to 2020–2021, both during active service and through his transition out.
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