The Oura Ring can detect when a user is in deep sleep, allowing the wearer to verify what time they were disturbed.
I Fear We're Not Reacting Enough | Reading Reddit Stories
A nanny got fired after confronting her employers about suspected midday sex — then admitted in her update she was jealous of the mom's perfect life.
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I Fear We're Not Reacting Enough | Reading Reddit Stories
A nanny got fired after confronting her employers about suspected midday sex — then admitted in her update she was jealous of the mom's perfect life.
TL;DR
Courtney Miller, Shayne Topp, and Arasha react to five Reddit "Am I Overreacting?" posts ranging from a girlfriend upset her boyfriend kisses her goodbye while she sleeps [1] "A grad student's boyfriend wakes her during deep sleep every morning to kiss her goodbye, ignoring sticky notes on the door and repeated ve…" 03:40 to a nanny who got fired after confronting her employers about suspected bedroom activity — later admitting she was jealous [2] "A nanny earning $32/hr at a dream job became convinced her employers were having sex during her shift. Instead of ignoring it, she cornered…" 31:00 . The episode blends sharp social commentary with laugh-out-loud reactions. Key takeaway: the update reveals are almost always more damning than the original post, and jealousy tends to be the hidden driver behind "reasonable" complaints.
Courtney Miller, Shayne Topp, and Arasha react to five Reddit 'Am I Overreacting?' posts covering a girlfriend upset about morning kisses, a suspicious adult toy package, a nanny fired for confronting her employers, an accidental crude text from a Hinge date, and a 19-year-old furious about a 25-minute late birthday text.
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The episode opens with pre-recorded sponsor spots for Shopify and Talkspace before any of the Smosh hosts appear. The Shopify read features enthusiastic user testimonials about how easy the platform is to use for building a business. The Talkspace read is more personal, describing navigating major life changes — a long-distance relationship, becoming a stepfather — with the help of online therapy, and closes with a promo code for $80 off the first month.
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Shayne reads a January 2026 Am I Overreacting post from a grad student whose boyfriend, on a 7 AM work schedule, insists on kissing her goodbye every morning despite her being a night owl who tracks her deep sleep with an Oura Ring. She's left notes, given verbal reminders, and even taped signs to her bedroom door — all ignored. The hosts initially laugh at the sweet premise but quickly pivot: Arasha and Courtney agree that once someone has set a clear, repeated boundary, the sweetness of the act becomes irrelevant. Shayne lands the insight that 'the sweetest thing is to listen to them.' [2] — Shayne Topp "It doesn't matter if the act is a very sweet act. If someone's saying, hey, please don't do that, kind of doesn't matter how sweet it is an…" 14:53 The panel also discusses how separate bedrooms can be a sign of strength in a couple rather than distance.
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The update shifts the tone entirely: the boyfriend came home for lunch, admitted he hadn't seen the note and had forgotten her request, but explained the morning kiss was about existential worry — what if something happened before he saw her again? It was also their anniversary. The poster is moved, forgives him, and the couple lands on a charming compromise: he'll use a dry-erase board on her door to leave illustrated messages instead of waking her. She also notes she'll allow him in if he kisses her somewhere less disruptive, like the top of her head. The panel finds her final reflection — that Reddit commenters had no real window into their relationship and judged it on one weird detail — genuinely insightful.
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The update shifts the tone entirely: the boyfriend came home for lunch, admitted he hadn't seen the note and had forgotten her request, but explained the morning kiss was about existential worry — what if something happened before he saw her again? It was also their anniversary. The poster is moved, forgives him, and the couple lands on a charming compromise: he'll use a dry-erase board on her door to leave illustrated messages instead of waking her. She also notes she'll allow him in if he kisses her somewhere less disruptive, like the top of her head. The panel finds her final reflection — that Reddit commenters had no real window into their relationship and judged it on one weird detail — genuinely insightful.
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Shayne reads a March 2026 Am I Overreacting post from a woman who discovered an adult toy package at her home addressed to an unknown woman who, upon investigation, turns out to work in the same professional field as her husband — in the same area he frequents. She approached him calmly, no accusations, but he immediately became defensive and turned the question back on her, leaving her nearly apologizing. The hosts are unanimous: the coincidence is one thing, but the defensive reaction is the real tell. Arasha points out there's no reasonable reading of events where turning the question on your wife is innocent. Shayne notes the post also buries the fact that the husband 'has a history of being dishonest when confronted,' which the panel treats as the buried lede.
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Shayne reads an October 2025 post from r/Nanny in which a full-time nanny at a dream $32/hr job has become convinced her employers have sex during the dad's lunch break. Her evidence: she thinks she hears the bed moving sometimes, and the mom comes out with messy hair and changed clothes. She has even begun interrogating the mom when she emerges. The panel is united: married adults are allowed to have private time in their own home. Arasha draws the roommate analogy — sometimes you just need to put on music and let life happen. Courtney makes the point that the parents' private time is effectively their break from parenting, and the nanny is being paid specifically so they can have it. The Reddit comments are similarly one-sided, with the top comment calling her 'creepy' for 'listening for bed creaks.'
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A 22-year-old woman posts on Am I Overreacting after what she described as an amazing first date ends with her date accidentally sending her a text meant for a friend. The text rates her appearance using crude slang, gives her an '11 out of 10,' and describes an involuntary physical reaction to their kiss. The panel has an immediate, layered reaction — part amused, part genuinely critical. The real villain of the segment becomes the follow-up: a multi-paragraph ChatGPT-generated apology so formal and repetitive that Shayne likens it to a Jane Austen novel, noting that it adds zero new personal information and simply loops through formal apology language. The panel agrees: the AI apology insulted her intelligence even more than the original text, because it revealed he wasn't even willing to do the emotional labor of a real apology.
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The final story of the episode comes from Am I Overreacting, posted just days before recording. A 19-year-old details her outrage that her boyfriend wished her happy birthday 25 minutes after midnight — but as Shayne reads on, the story reveals she declined his calls, ignored his morning texts, and gave him the silent treatment for most of the day while simultaneously posting in group chats he could see. The panel is exasperated but also a little charmed by the raw, unfiltered teenage drama of it all, with Arasha comparing her to Cordelia from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Shayne reads Reddit comments pointing out she was self-sabotaging — shutting down every attempt the boyfriend made to celebrate her and then complaining about radio silence. The episode ends on a generous note: Shayne reflects that he's seen people like this completely transform in their late twenties, and Courtney adds that accountability is always the best outcome, however long it takes.
- MCOL
- Medium Cost of Living — a real estate and personal finance shorthand for cities or regions where housing and expenses fall between cheap rural areas and expensive metros like NYC or LA.
- Oura Ring
- A wearable smart ring that tracks sleep stages, heart rate, and recovery metrics; used in the episode to prove the poster's boyfriend was waking her during deep sleep.
- TL;DR
- Too Long; Didn't Read — Reddit shorthand for a brief summary appended to a long post.
- AIO
- Am I Overreacting — a Reddit subreddit where users post personal situations and ask the community whether their emotional response was proportionate.
- AITA
- Am I the Asshole — a related Reddit subreddit where users ask the community to judge whether they were in the wrong in a personal conflict.
- gaslighting
- A form of psychological manipulation where someone causes a victim to question their own perception of reality; used in the episode to describe the husband turning the package question back on his wife.
- live-in nanny
- A nanny who resides full-time in the employer's home as part of their compensation arrangement, distinct from a nanny who works full-time hours but commutes home.
- unicorn family
- Nanny community slang for an exceptionally rare, ideal nanny employer — generous, kind, flexible, and well-paying.
- post-nut clarity
- Internet slang for the sudden, sober-minded self-awareness that supposedly arrives immediately after sexual climax; cited ironically by a Reddit commenter in the accidental-text story.
- rage bait
- Online content deliberately crafted to provoke outrage, whether or not the underlying story is real; a Reddit commenter speculated the birthday post might be this.
- girl's girl
- Informal term for a woman who actively supports and looks out for other women; used by the hosts to suggest the mystery woman might have sent the package as a tip-off to the wife.
- frontal lobe
- The brain region responsible for impulse control, decision-making, and understanding consequences; the hosts referenced its late development to explain the nanny's poor judgment.
- green flag
- Dating and relationship slang for a positive signal indicating healthy, trustworthy behavior in a person or partner — the opposite of a red flag.
- ghillie suit
- A full-body camouflage suit worn by snipers and hunters; Arasha used it humorously to describe how she would covertly return the misdelivered adult toy package without making eye contact.
- egregious
- Outstandingly bad or shocking; used in the AI-generated apology text and highlighted by the panel as a telltale sign of ChatGPT-style formal language no real 22-year-old would use.
- perfunctory
- Carried out with minimal effort; done as a routine duty. Used here in the broader context of the AI apology's hollow, formulaic language that the hosts argued lacked genuine remorse.
- Hinge
- A popular dating app positioned as designed to be deleted, meaning it aims to help users find serious relationships rather than casual matches.
- Adam and Eve
- A well-known American adult novelty and sex toy retail company; the source of the misdirected package in the second Reddit story.
Chapter 2 · 02:17
Should I end my relationship because my bf says he loves me?
Shayne reads a January 2026 Am I Overreacting post from a grad student whose boyfriend, on a 7 AM work schedule, insists on kissing her goodbye every morning despite her being a night owl who tracks her deep sleep with an Oura Ring. She's left notes, given verbal reminders, and even taped signs to her bedroom door — all ignored. The hosts initially laugh at the sweet premise but quickly pivot: Arasha and Courtney agree that once someone has set a clear, repeated boundary, the sweetness of the act becomes irrelevant. Shayne lands the insight that 'the sweetest thing is to listen to them.' [2] — Shayne Topp "It doesn't matter if the act is a very sweet act. If someone's saying, hey, please don't do that, kind of doesn't matter how sweet it is an…" 14:53 The panel also discusses how separate bedrooms can be a sign of strength in a couple rather than distance.
Claims made here
When a partner gets up in the morning, some people's heart rates drop to their nightly low in the following hour, possibly because the body feels safe to relax.
A grad student's boyfriend wakes her during deep sleep every morning to kiss her goodbye, ignoring sticky notes on the door and repeated verbal requests. Sweet intentions don't override someone's clear, repeated boundary.
A grad student's boyfriend wakes her during deep sleep every morning to say 'I love you' despite repeated requests, sticky notes on her door, and verbal reminders the night before.
The girlfriend used Oura Ring data to confirm her boyfriend was waking her during deep sleep, making her groggy throughout the day.
Chapter 4 · 11:56
Back to the story
The update shifts the tone entirely: the boyfriend came home for lunch, admitted he hadn't seen the note and had forgotten her request, but explained the morning kiss was about existential worry — what if something happened before he saw her again? It was also their anniversary. The poster is moved, forgives him, and the couple lands on a charming compromise: he'll use a dry-erase board on her door to leave illustrated messages instead of waking her. She also notes she'll allow him in if he kisses her somewhere less disruptive, like the top of her head. The panel finds her final reflection — that Reddit commenters had no real window into their relationship and judged it on one weird detail — genuinely insightful.
The couple in the first story have separate bedrooms, which Shayne notes is increasingly common and a sign of healthy boundary-setting rather than relationship trouble.
No matter how loving the gesture, ignoring someone's repeated requests to stop makes it disrespectful. The real act of love is listening when someone tells you what they need.
Chapter 5 · 18:02
A sexy package came to my house addressed to another woman
Shayne reads a March 2026 Am I Overreacting post from a woman who discovered an adult toy package at her home addressed to an unknown woman who, upon investigation, turns out to work in the same professional field as her husband — in the same area he frequents. She approached him calmly, no accusations, but he immediately became defensive and turned the question back on her, leaving her nearly apologizing. The hosts are unanimous: the coincidence is one thing, but the defensive reaction is the real tell. Arasha points out there's no reasonable reading of events where turning the question on your wife is innocent. Shayne notes the post also buries the fact that the husband 'has a history of being dishonest when confronted,' which the panel treats as the buried lede.
Claims made here
People who are guilty of something often respond to confrontation by turning the question back on the accuser rather than engaging with the evidence.
A package delivered to the correct address but the wrong name in the cheating-suspicion story was the result of the neighbor typing a one-digit address error.
An adult toy package arrived at a woman's home addressed to a stranger who happens to work in her husband's specific field. His immediate defensiveness turned a suspicious coincidence into a relationship crisis.
A woman received an adult toy package at her home addressed to an unknown woman who shared her husband's professional field, sparking cheating suspicions that turned out to be a one-digit typo.
The panel agreed that the husband's immediate defensiveness — turning the question back on his wife — was more incriminating than the package itself.
The package was innocent: a neighbor had fat-fingered her address by one digit while ordering for herself and her husband. But the update reveals the husband's chronic defensiveness is 'its own fun problem' — and the typo became a wake-up call.
Chapter 6 · 30:18
My nanny family has sex during the day
Shayne reads an October 2025 post from r/Nanny in which a full-time nanny at a dream $32/hr job has become convinced her employers have sex during the dad's lunch break. Her evidence: she thinks she hears the bed moving sometimes, and the mom comes out with messy hair and changed clothes. She has even begun interrogating the mom when she emerges. The panel is united: married adults are allowed to have private time in their own home. Arasha draws the roommate analogy — sometimes you just need to put on music and let life happen. Courtney makes the point that the parents' private time is effectively their break from parenting, and the nanny is being paid specifically so they can have it. The Reddit comments are similarly one-sided, with the top comment calling her 'creepy' for 'listening for bed creaks.'
Claims made here
Full-time nannies in medium cost-of-living areas can earn $32 per hour with full benefits.
Most Reddit posts in nanny subreddits portray the employer as the bad party; this story is an exception where the panel sided with the employer.
A nanny earning $32/hr at a dream job became convinced her employers were having sex during her shift. Instead of ignoring it, she cornered the mom outside the bedroom and asked if she was napping. It did not go well.
The nanny in story three earned $32 an hour with full benefits in a medium cost-of-living area, which the panel described as a 'dream job' that she ultimately lost.
The mom calmly told the nanny her only job was caring for the baby, not policing the bedroom. Then she sent her home. Later, she texted: 'We're moving in another direction.' The nanny immediately regretted everything.
Despite being confronted about her private life and having to fire her nanny, the mom boss forgave the nanny, paid her a full month's severance, and texted that she hoped it would be a learning experience. The panel was stunned.
After being fired and receiving $5,200 in severance she said she didn't deserve, the nanny finally admitted the truth: she was jealous. The mom was 28, beautiful, rich, and in a happy marriage — and the nanny was the same age.
After being let go for confronting her employers about suspected bedroom activity, the nanny received one month's pay ($5,200) as a severance gesture, which she admitted she didn't deserve.
Whether it's jealousy driving a nanny's complaint, a husband's defensive personality revealing deeper problems, or a poster's own entitled behavior, the updates on these posts always expose what the original left out. Reddit therapy only works if you're honest.
In her final update, the nanny admitted she was jealous of the 28-year-old stay-at-home mom's beautiful home, happy marriage, and seemingly perfect life.
Chapter 7 · 54:05
I ended things with my date after he accidentally texted me this
A 22-year-old woman posts on Am I Overreacting after what she described as an amazing first date ends with her date accidentally sending her a text meant for a friend. The text rates her appearance using crude slang, gives her an '11 out of 10,' and describes an involuntary physical reaction to their kiss. The panel has an immediate, layered reaction — part amused, part genuinely critical. The real villain of the segment becomes the follow-up: a multi-paragraph ChatGPT-generated apology so formal and repetitive that Shayne likens it to a Jane Austen novel, noting that it adds zero new personal information and simply loops through formal apology language. The panel agrees: the AI apology insulted her intelligence even more than the original text, because it revealed he wasn't even willing to do the emotional labor of a real apology.
Claims made here
The man's apology text was almost certainly AI-generated because it lacked any specific personal details and repeated the same points in a loop.
The way someone talks to their friends when not performing for a romantic partner is a more accurate reflection of their character.
Talking like 'that's just how guys talk' is not a universal male behavior — it describes a subset of immature men, not men in general.
A 22-year-old man accidentally sent his Hinge date a text meant for a friend rating her appearance in crude terms and describing a physical reaction to their first kiss. The date went from amazing to over in one notification.
A 22-year-old man accidentally texted his date a message meant for a friend rating her physical appearance and describing a physical reaction to their kiss.
Realizing his mistake, the man sent a multi-paragraph AI-generated apology full of words like 'egregious' and 'profoundly mortified.' The panel agreed: it insulted her intelligence more than the original crude text did.
The man followed up his accidental crude text with a ChatGPT-generated multi-paragraph apology, using words like 'egregious' and 'profoundly mortified,' which the panel identified as AI-written.
A 19-year-old posted about being furious her boyfriend of four months wished her happy birthday 25 minutes after midnight — despite him calling twice, texting throughout the day, and planning a weekend celebration. Reddit was not sympathetic.
Chapter 8 · 1:04:50
I'm mad that my bf wished me happy birthday 25 minutes late
The final story of the episode comes from Am I Overreacting, posted just days before recording. A 19-year-old details her outrage that her boyfriend wished her happy birthday 25 minutes after midnight — but as Shayne reads on, the story reveals she declined his calls, ignored his morning texts, and gave him the silent treatment for most of the day while simultaneously posting in group chats he could see. The panel is exasperated but also a little charmed by the raw, unfiltered teenage drama of it all, with Arasha comparing her to Cordelia from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Shayne reads Reddit comments pointing out she was self-sabotaging — shutting down every attempt the boyfriend made to celebrate her and then complaining about radio silence. The episode ends on a generous note: Shayne reflects that he's seen people like this completely transform in their late twenties, and Courtney adds that accountability is always the best outcome, however long it takes.
Claims made here
The 19-year-old birthday poster self-sabotaged by declining her boyfriend's calls and not responding to texts, then complained he wasn't making enough effort.
Some people who exhibit highly entitled relationship behavior at 19 completely change by their late twenties or thirties, while others stay the same or get worse.
A 19-year-old girl posted on Reddit about being furious her boyfriend wished her happy birthday 25 minutes after midnight, despite him calling her twice and texting multiple times.
The boyfriend called twice at midnight, texted three times in the morning, and sent memes throughout the day — all ignored or declined by the poster, who then complained about his radio silence.
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Referenced by Shayne Topp as a comparison to the nanny's overly watchful behavior, citing Plemons' nosy neighbor character in the film Game Night.
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The source platform for all five stories discussed in the episode; multiple subreddits including Am I Overreacting and r/Nanny are referenced throughout.
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Online therapy platform mentioned in a pre-roll sponsor ad at the start of the episode.
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Adult novelty retailer whose misdirected package sparked the cheating suspicion in the second Reddit story.
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Episode sponsor; promoted as a free app for booking in-network doctors with real-time availability.
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E-commerce platform mentioned in a pre-roll sponsor ad at the very start of the episode.
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The production company behind the podcast; referenced in social links and episode branding.
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AI chatbot the panel unanimously suspected the 22-year-old used to generate his overly formal multi-paragraph apology text.
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Wearable sleep tracker used by the Reddit poster to confirm her boyfriend was waking her during deep sleep, becoming a key detail in the first story.
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Dating app through which the 22-year-old woman met the date who accidentally sent her a crude text meant for a friend.
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2018 comedy film whose overly observant neighbor character played by Jesse Plemons was used by Shayne to describe the nanny's excessive surveillance of her employers.
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Home city of the 19-year-old birthday poster's boyfriend's visiting cousins, used as context for why he was distracted on her birthday.
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Factual claims made this episode, and whether a source was named.
The Oura Ring can detect when a user is in deep sleep, allowing the wearer to verify what time they were disturbed.
When a partner gets up in the morning, some people's heart rates drop to their nightly low in the following hour, possibly because the body feels safe to relax.
A package delivered to the correct address but the wrong name in the cheating-suspicion story was the result of the neighbor typing a one-digit address error.
People who are guilty of something often respond to confrontation by turning the question back on the accuser rather than engaging with the evidence.
Full-time nannies in medium cost-of-living areas can earn $32 per hour with full benefits.
Most Reddit posts in nanny subreddits portray the employer as the bad party; this story is an exception where the panel sided with the employer.
The man's apology text was almost certainly AI-generated because it lacked any specific personal details and repeated the same points in a loop.
The 19-year-old birthday poster self-sabotaged by declining her boyfriend's calls and not responding to texts, then complained he wasn't making enough effort.
The way someone talks to their friends when not performing for a romantic partner is a more accurate reflection of their character.
Some people who exhibit highly entitled relationship behavior at 19 completely change by their late twenties or thirties, while others stay the same or get worse.
Talking like 'that's just how guys talk' is not a universal male behavior — it describes a subset of immature men, not men in general.
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