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Robby Hoffman was born poor, born into chaos, and born offended. She says the modern expectation of living a life free from offense is a luxury she never had and never expects. Being offended is survivable. Being poor, she says, is worse.
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Garcia-Navarro notes that Hoffman has joked about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions — and asks if there's a backlash she's felt. Hoffman finds the actual backlash hilarious: of everything in that special, the pit bull community came for her first, and they are, she says, as scary as the dogs. The only other community to mount a serious attack was celiacs — and Hoffman points out with some irony that she may have raised more celiac awareness than any earnest advocate. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman joked about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions in her Netflix special — and the only communities to mount a serious ba…" 32:50 She notes that celiac is disproportionately diagnosed in white women with healthcare access, and that people of colour are less likely to receive the diagnosis due to lack of healthcare. She then makes a sharp parallel to antisemitism: yes, it's bad, she doesn't want it, but when her Mexican neighbours are being rounded up or living in fear of deportation, that is her bigger focus right now. The conversation closes on her cleanest line of the episode: being offended is not the worst thing. Being poor is.
Robby Hoffman joked about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions in her Netflix special — and the only communities to mount a serious backlash were pit bull owners and celiacs. She jokes they're both dominated by rich white women, and notes with some irony that she may have raised more celiac awareness than anyone.
Despite joking about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions in her Netflix special, the only communities to seriously come after Robby Hoffman were pit bull owners and celiac sufferers.
Robby Hoffman refuses to prioritise antisemitism above anti-Mexican sentiment in the current US political climate. She says she has bigger focuses right now — her neighbors who are living in fear of being rounded up — and she won't be grabbed into an us-versus-them dynamic.
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