Robby Hoffman Will Always Feel Poor, No Matter How Rich She Gets
Robby Hoffman says she still can't emotionally bring herself to spend $7.99 on raspberries — no matter how much money is in the account — because poverty rewires you permanently.
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Robby Hoffman Will Always Feel Poor, No Matter How Rich She Gets
Robby Hoffman says she still can't emotionally bring herself to spend $7.99 on raspberries — no matter how much money is in the account — because poverty rewires you permanently.
TL;DR
Comedian and actor Robby Hoffman sits down with Lulu Garcia-Navarro in a candid, wide-ranging conversation about class, identity, and what money actually changes — and what it doesn't. Hoffman, who grew up the seventh of ten children in an ultra-Orthodox Hasidic household in Crown Heights with an abusive father and no air conditioning, explains how poverty permanently rewires your emotional relationship with money [1] — Robby Hoffman "No matter how much money is in the account, Robby Hoffman cannot bring herself to spend $7.99 on a small container of raspberries. It's not…" 05:00 — she still can't bring herself to pay $7.99 for raspberries [2] — Robby Hoffman "The rich, they have the biggest fridge, but nobody can go in the fridge. So it's a small thing like that that paints a bigger picture, a bi…" 03:50 . She discusses being outed at 17, losing nearly all her friends overnight, and how standup gave her the freedom to be unapologetically herself. The single most useful takeaway: class, not identity politics, is the lens Hoffman believes should unite us.
Comedian and actor Robby Hoffman discusses how class and her Hasidic upbringing inform everything about the way she lives, jokes, and sees the world in a candid interview with Lulu Garcia-Navarro.
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The episode opens with a TikTok brand advertisement celebrating curiosity and learning on the platform before cutting to host Lulu Garcia-Navarro, who sets the stage for an unusually candid celebrity interview. Garcia-Navarro introduces Robby Hoffman as someone who seems to be everywhere right now — praised for her role as Randy in Hacks, a former Hasidic Jew from Crown Heights turned Hollywood assistant, and for her role in Steve Carell's HBO comedy Rooster. She notes that Hoffman grew up poor, the seventh of ten children in an ultra-Orthodox family, experienced significant trauma, and was outed in her teens — yet her family supported her. That life, Garcia-Navarro suggests, is the source of Hoffman's unfiltered comedy. The stage is set for a conversation about money, fame, marriage, and what they mean in a celebrity-obsessed culture.
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The interview opens with Hoffman immediately clocking the absurdity of a production team showing up to make someone 'comfortable' and then rearranging their entire living room. She delivers a quick, incisive observation about how interview subjects on TV always seem to be sitting oddly in their own homes — now she understands why. The exchange is brief but revealing: it establishes Garcia-Navarro and Hoffman as well-matched, and signals that Hoffman will not let anything slide without comment. When asked directly if she's comfortable, her answer — 'No. But I'm not comfortable a lot, so don't worry. I'm comfortable being uncomfortable' — is essentially a thesis statement for everything that follows.
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Hoffman begins by refusing to call her new circumstances 'weird' — she says they're tremendous, everything she wanted. But she immediately pivots to a sharply observed analysis of the differences between rich and poor social norms. To her, rich weirdness is far stranger and more troubling than poor weirdness because it comes with what she calls a 'missing humanity.' [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman has lived poor and she's lived famous — and she says rich weirdness is far stranger and more troubling than poor weirdness, b…" 03:40 The fridge analogy is her killer illustration: poor families had almost nothing, but when you came to their house it was 'take, take, take'; wealthy families have the biggest fridges in the world, but nobody can open them. She frames this not just as a quirk but as a window into a broader failure of generosity — one she says she still finds worth noting whenever a wealthy person actually turns out to be generous. Garcia-Navarro largely listens, recognising she's hearing an original mind working through a subject it has thought about for years.
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Garcia-Navarro pushes on what has stayed with Hoffman from her years of struggle, sharing that her own mother — a Cuban political refugee — became a hoarder because she lost everything young. Hoffman responds that everything stays: 'The way that I am is entirely informed by how I grew up.' [1] — Robby Hoffman "No matter how much money is in the account, Robby Hoffman cannot bring herself to spend $7.99 on a small container of raspberries. It's not…" 05:00 She explains why she and her wife Gabby Windey are so well-matched — both grew up with 'meager beginnings' and speak the same financial language. The raspberry story arrives almost as a throwaway detail but lands as the episode's most memorable image: raspberries at $7.99 are simply criminal to Hoffman, not because she can't afford them, but because she is not emotionally in a place to justify the expense. She traces this back to her great-uncle in Montreal, who stopped leaving his room once gas reached a dollar per litre — a man whose poverty had so conditioned his behaviour that a marginal price increase became a complete shutdown. Garcia-Navarro, clearly delighted, presses her on what 'not emotionally in a place' means, and Hoffman elaborates on how she handles purchases: take a little off the top for something she loves, be careful with the rest.
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Asked about her earliest memories of Crown Heights, Hoffman pauses before going somewhere she says she doesn't always go. She describes the summers as brutally hot, the family without air conditioning while her parents had one unit in their bedroom window. Ten children slept on the floor in their underwear — on couch cushions, improvised mattresses. But the deeper difficulty was her father. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman describes childhood summers in Crown Heights with no AC, 10 kids sleeping on the floor of a single room, and a father who was…" 07:42 She is careful not to be entirely uncharitable — her father was 35 with ten children, her mother was 30 with ten children, neither had adequate resources, and she tries to give some grace to the pressures they were under. But she is clear: he was physically abusive to her mother for years. Her own childhood adaptation was to become invisible around him. She describes being five or six, walking to the kitchen for a snack, spotting her father sitting there, and simply saying 'Oh, didn't see you there' before retreating. It's a quiet, devastating detail about a childhood spent on high alert.
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Garcia-Navarro asks when Hoffman realised she was funny, and the answer is instructive: probably later, because everyone in her family was funny. Her father was funny, her mother is hysterical, and the whole household operated with a brutal, unfiltered humour that had no sense of what was off-limits. Hoffman frames this as cultural and also as necessary: when you can't afford decorum, you find other ways to cope. She shares an early joke from her career — about her sister, who worked at Starbucks and walked home late at night through dark blocks by mimicking a physical disability to make herself less attractive to sexual predators. Hoffman used to do the walk on stage; she no longer does. But she offers it as evidence that comedy is not always polite, it is not always comfortable, and it sometimes grows directly from the mechanisms people use to survive dangerous circumstances. She then pivots to a broader point: the very concept of 'comfort' is a rich person's concept.
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The conversation pivots to a broader observation about language and class. Hoffman notes that wealthy people describe their upbringings as 'comfortable' — a word that sanitises what they mean and erases anyone who truly had nothing. Growing up, she never had the luxury of not knowing about money: there was one telephone on a table in the entrance hall, and her mother was on it every day, screaming about whether there was enough money for bus passes. The walls were thin, the rooms were shared, there was no escaping the financial anxiety of the household. By contrast, rich families have siloed rooms, closed doors, and a culture of not talking about money. Hoffman argues this silence is itself a form of privilege — and that the rich, who talk about comfort most, are often the least comfortable with anything real. The poor, she insists, know how to actually relax once the pressure is off.
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Garcia-Navarro has done her research — including the Florida interlude that Hoffman says she usually skips over — and the conversation turns to the family's escape. Hoffman's grandfather came and took her mother out, and the family left her father behind. The move to Canada was not an overnight exit from religion: Hoffman kept kosher until 19, and they relocated to a Montreal neighbourhood home to the same Hasidic sect. The biggest change, Hoffman explains, was the absence of the father — which by Jewish law meant her mother assumed the traditionally male religious duties: kiddush on Friday night, havdalah at the close of the Sabbath. The real story behind the family's broader transition, Hoffman emphasises, is her mother's story. A deeply well-read woman, fluent in English, her mother began to notice that her sons were being educated exclusively in Yiddish and Torah — that they were not learning their own language, not learning the classics. She started asking: is this what I want for my children's lives? That question, combined with surviving years of abuse, drove the entire family's departure from the insular community.
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The conversation moves to Hoffman's high school years at a private Jewish school she attended on scholarship — a place where her poverty made her an outsider from day one. She describes the dual pressure of hiding where she came from and hiding her boyishness, trying to be feminine, girly, less loud, less herself. A defining moment: a close friend sat her down in ninth grade and told her she was 'bringing down the group' by carrying a backpack. Purses were required. Hoffman bought a secondhand Levi's bag — a detail that immediately marks its own class irony. She also worked on her accent: in Montreal, 'orange' is pronounced differently, and she trained herself out of it because she feared people could hear her poverty in her vowels. The whole performance — how she looked, how she sounded — was continuous. She would later describe the moment she started standup as the moment she began walking back in the other direction, toward 100% herself.
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Hoffman takes Garcia-Navarro through the outing in careful, almost cinematic detail. She had a girlfriend — Italian, who wanted to be public — but Hoffman was not willing to come out. She was already living alone, working nearly full-time, studying full-time, and simply could not take on another thing. At a student bar one night, she slipped into a bathroom stall with her girlfriend. The door swung open. A girl from school saw them. Something was clearly going on. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman was 17 when a bathroom stall door swung open at a student bar, and by the next day she had lost almost every friend she had. …" 23:05 By the next day, Hoffman says it felt like everybody knew. Walking through the cafeteria — like a scene from A Walk to Remember — she could hear the whispers. She lost all but two friends overnight at 17. She credits a friend named Malay and a friend named Allie, whose mother had always been kind, with being a lifeline when almost everyone else disappeared. She describes it, plainly and without drama, as lucky to have survived.
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Garcia-Navarro traces Hoffman's path from Crown Heights to McGill University, where she studied accounting and eventually landed her first steady paycheck at an accounting firm. But she was also beginning to do standup, and the firm's culture demanded total professional dedication — the kind where you don't leave at 7 PM for comedy shows. Hoffman's solution was simple: she used her given name Rivka professionally and performed as Robbie, borrowing the name from an uncle with the same initial. She dismisses any Beyoncé Sasha Fierce reading of it — it was not an alter ego, just an extremely practical decision by someone who needed the accounting income while testing whether comedy might be a real career.
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Garcia-Navarro references a 2014 TEDx talk in which Hoffman said 'comedy chooses you' and 'the stage is where I'd like to live.' Hoffman's response is immediate and visceral: in small talk, dinner parties, one-on-one settings, she is deeply uncomfortable. But when the lights go dark and the spotlight hits her, she feels like she's in a womb. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman is deeply socially anxious in small settings, but when the lights go dark and the spotlight hits, she feels like she's in a w…" 27:40 She compares herself to a Jackson Pollock — an artist who needs a massive canvas, who can't work in small, polite formats. The theatres she performs in now are her natural habitat. She then revisits the moment standup made it clear she had to choose: she had planned to marry well, get a stable job, live middle-class, maybe have a condo. She was gay now, the accounting job was going, and pursuing art looked like the poorest possible option for someone trying not to be poor. But she felt it was a calling — and you don't ignore a calling.
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Garcia-Navarro presses Hoffman on how she thinks about her comedy — specifically whether you need to belong to a group to joke about it. Hoffman's answer is clean and unequivocal: anyone can do anything, but you're at your own risk. She cites Dave Chappelle as the obvious example — he can joke about trans people without being trans, but people can also respond however they want. The market of reactions is open. Hoffman doesn't place herself above this dynamic; she's simply honest about it. What she struggles to answer is whether there's something she personally won't joke about — not because it doesn't exist, but because jokes come to her rather than being planned, and she can only know her limits by approaching them.
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Garcia-Navarro notes that Hoffman has joked about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions — and asks if there's a backlash she's felt. Hoffman finds the actual backlash hilarious: of everything in that special, the pit bull community came for her first, and they are, she says, as scary as the dogs. The only other community to mount a serious attack was celiacs — and Hoffman points out with some irony that she may have raised more celiac awareness than any earnest advocate. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman joked about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions in her Netflix special — and the only communities to mount a serious ba…" 32:50 She notes that celiac is disproportionately diagnosed in white women with healthcare access, and that people of colour are less likely to receive the diagnosis due to lack of healthcare. She then makes a sharp parallel to antisemitism: yes, it's bad, she doesn't want it, but when her Mexican neighbours are being rounded up or living in fear of deportation, that is her bigger focus right now. The conversation closes on her cleanest line of the episode: being offended is not the worst thing. Being poor is.
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Garcia-Navarro shifts to Hoffman's TV career, and Hoffman lights up: Hacks changed her life, the Emmy nomination was surreal, and she has no complaints. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman's role as Randy in Hacks — a Hasidic Jew from Crown Heights turned Hollywood assistant — netted her an Emmy nomination despit…" 37:10 But Garcia-Navarro has found something that clearly still stings — a piece in a Jewish publication titled 'How Hacks Botched Its Yiddish Line.' The article argued that a Yiddish line Hoffman delivered in a late-season gag was grammatically incorrect. Hoffman's rebuttal is pointed: her mother, a fluent Yiddish speaker, gave her the word. The grammar around it might have been imperfect, but the word was right. And the broader irony is scalding — the Jewish community wanted representation and got Yiddish on a major TV comedy, and then the same community's press took issue with the grammar. Her little sister, Hoffman notes, is thrilled by the scrutiny: it means Robby isn't a nobody anymore.
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The second half of the interview begins with Garcia-Navarro asking how Hoffman is handling the transition to a much higher level of fame, and whether the scrutiny is getting to her. Hoffman is pragmatic: her career has grown slowly enough that she feels prepared. But she's also clear about what she doesn't want — to get sucked into the machine of dividing people by 'the red and the blue of it all.' Her analysis of why her shows are successful is characteristically direct: she doesn't participate in petty squabbles when bigger things are happening. At her core, she says, it has always been rich versus poor — that's the division that matters, the one that explains almost everything else, and the one she keeps returning to no matter what question she's asked.
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Garcia-Navarro pivots to Gabby Windey, noting that the relationship has compounded Hoffman's public profile. Hoffman immediately says 'Thank God for her' with genuine warmth. She thought Gabby would be a Faithful on The Traitors, not a Traitor — she doesn't think either of them have the temperament for strategic lying, and she suspects she'd be out first on any such show. Gabby is a fighter, though, and Hoffman's weekly phone calls to her during filming were simple: take the money and come home. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman and Gabby Windey both came from difficult backgrounds, but Gabby's instability meant she used to stay silent about small grie…" 47:20 The conversation turns more tender when Garcia-Navarro asks how they figured out what a good relationship looks like given both of their difficult upbringings. Hoffman explains that her own mother was always home — a source of stability even in poverty. Gabby didn't have that consistency; she feared that voicing even small complaints would cause Hoffman to leave. Hoffman describes learning to say: just tell me, I'll close the cabinet. The relationship isn't about healing each other, she says — but healing is the cherry. And it closes with her most quotable observation of the second half: when she was a kid, she was told she couldn't choose her family. Then she found the loophole — marriage. Choose wisely.
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Garcia-Navarro offers a closing observation: America always wants to present itself as aspirational and hides the ugliness — the trauma, the poverty, the things underneath. She suggests that what makes Hoffman so provocative is that she insists on putting that front and centre. Hoffman agrees, and admits she feels this dissonance acutely when doing interviews for elite publications like the Times. She commits, simply, to always being herself no matter the context. The conclusion she offers is plain but resonant: classism affects everybody, the conversation about economic inequality is not a new conversation, and it is not a side conversation — it is the conversation. Seth, the producer sitting on the floor of her hotel room, nods in agreement.
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Garcia-Navarro wraps up the conversation, directing listeners to subscribe to the YouTube channel for video of this and other interviews. She credits producer Seth Kelley, editor Jon Wu, and the full production team. She then teases that in two weeks — after a break — the show will feature David's interview with Mick Jagger, playing a short clip in which Jagger says that performers without huge egos have huge problems. The episode closes with an advertisement for Ollie, a fresh human-grade dog food brand, offering 70% off a welcome kit with the code DAILY at Ollie.com/Daily.
- Hasidic
- Relating to Hasidism, an ultra-Orthodox Jewish movement founded in 18th-century Eastern Europe emphasising spiritual devotion, communal life, and strict religious observance. Hoffman grew up in a Hasidic community in Crown Heights, Brooklyn.
- Kiddush
- A Jewish blessing recited over wine or grape juice on the Sabbath and Jewish holidays to sanctify the day. Hoffman's mother took over the kiddush after the father left the household.
- Havdalah
- A Jewish religious ceremony marking the end of the Sabbath, typically performed on Saturday night using wine, spice, and a braided candle. Robby Hoffman's mother performed this traditionally male ritual after the father left.
- Mezuzah
- A small decorative case containing a Hebrew scripture scroll, affixed to doorposts in Jewish homes as a sign of faith. Hoffman mentions having one, signalling continued cultural connection to Judaism.
- Jappy / JAP
- Jewish American Princess — a derogatory slang term for a stereotypically materialistic and pampered Jewish woman. Hoffman says she adopted a 'jappy' persona to try to fit in at her private Jewish high school.
- Celiac
- An autoimmune disorder where the ingestion of gluten triggers immune damage to the small intestine. Hoffman references the celiac community after facing backlash for a casual joke about gluten.
- Kosher
- Adhering to the set of Jewish dietary laws (kashrut) specifying which foods may be eaten and how they must be prepared. Hoffman remained kosher until age 19 after leaving the Hasidic community.
- Yiddish
- A historical Germanic language spoken by Ashkenazi Jews, blending elements of German, Hebrew, Aramaic, and Slavic languages. Hoffman's mother is fluent and consulted her for a line in Hacks.
- Torah
- The central reference of the religious Judaic tradition, comprising the five books of Moses. Hoffman notes her brothers were being taught Torah and Yiddish exclusively, which concerned her mother.
- Socioeconomic
- Relating to or concerned with the interaction of social and economic factors. Used by Hoffman when describing how her worldview is shaped by both class and lived experience simultaneously.
- Insular
- Cut off from outside influences and resistant to new ideas. Hoffman uses it to describe the tight, self-contained nature of the Hasidic community she grew up in.
- Dissonance
- A state of inconsistency or conflict between beliefs or feelings. Hoffman's mother experienced a cognitive dissonance between being well-read and watching her sons receive only religious education.
- Pithy
- Concise and meaningfully expressed; brief but full of substance. Hoffman uses it self-referentially when asking whether her summary of classism was sufficiently succinct.
- Dichotomous
- Divided into two sharply contrasting parts or categories. Robby Hoffman uses it to describe her own contradictory nature — simultaneously nervous and confident, Canadian and American.
- Decorum
- Behaviour that conforms to accepted standards of propriety or good taste. Hoffman argues that growing up poor made decorum a luxury she and her family couldn't afford.
Chapter 2 · 01:35
Welcome to Robby's Rearranged House
The interview opens with Hoffman immediately clocking the absurdity of a production team showing up to make someone 'comfortable' and then rearranging their entire living room. She delivers a quick, incisive observation about how interview subjects on TV always seem to be sitting oddly in their own homes — now she understands why. The exchange is brief but revealing: it establishes Garcia-Navarro and Hoffman as well-matched, and signals that Hoffman will not let anything slide without comment. When asked directly if she's comfortable, her answer — 'No. But I'm not comfortable a lot, so don't worry. I'm comfortable being uncomfortable' — is essentially a thesis statement for everything that follows.
Chapter 3 · 02:55
The Weird Side of Wealth: Rich Fridge, No Access
Hoffman begins by refusing to call her new circumstances 'weird' — she says they're tremendous, everything she wanted. But she immediately pivots to a sharply observed analysis of the differences between rich and poor social norms. To her, rich weirdness is far stranger and more troubling than poor weirdness because it comes with what she calls a 'missing humanity.' [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman has lived poor and she's lived famous — and she says rich weirdness is far stranger and more troubling than poor weirdness, b…" 03:40 The fridge analogy is her killer illustration: poor families had almost nothing, but when you came to their house it was 'take, take, take'; wealthy families have the biggest fridges in the world, but nobody can open them. She frames this not just as a quirk but as a window into a broader failure of generosity — one she says she still finds worth noting whenever a wealthy person actually turns out to be generous. Garcia-Navarro largely listens, recognising she's hearing an original mind working through a subject it has thought about for years.
Robby Hoffman has lived poor and she's lived famous — and she says rich weirdness is far stranger and more troubling than poor weirdness, because it comes with a missing humanity. The fridge analogy says it all: poor households have nothing but share everything; rich households have everything and share nothing.
Robby Hoffman contrasts rich and poor households by noting that poor families always invited guests to take whatever they wanted from the fridge, while wealthy people with enormous fridges kept them off-limits.
Chapter 4 · 05:00
The Raspberry Test: How Poverty Rewires You Emotionally
Garcia-Navarro pushes on what has stayed with Hoffman from her years of struggle, sharing that her own mother — a Cuban political refugee — became a hoarder because she lost everything young. Hoffman responds that everything stays: 'The way that I am is entirely informed by how I grew up.' [1] — Robby Hoffman "No matter how much money is in the account, Robby Hoffman cannot bring herself to spend $7.99 on a small container of raspberries. It's not…" 05:00 She explains why she and her wife Gabby Windey are so well-matched — both grew up with 'meager beginnings' and speak the same financial language. The raspberry story arrives almost as a throwaway detail but lands as the episode's most memorable image: raspberries at $7.99 are simply criminal to Hoffman, not because she can't afford them, but because she is not emotionally in a place to justify the expense. She traces this back to her great-uncle in Montreal, who stopped leaving his room once gas reached a dollar per litre — a man whose poverty had so conditioned his behaviour that a marginal price increase became a complete shutdown. Garcia-Navarro, clearly delighted, presses her on what 'not emotionally in a place' means, and Hoffman elaborates on how she handles purchases: take a little off the top for something she loves, be careful with the rest.
Claims made here
Gas prices in the Los Angeles area were approximately seven dollars per gallon at the time of recording.
Gas prices in Montreal were approximately 70 cents per litre in Robby Hoffman's childhood, rising to one dollar — at which point her great-uncle refused to leave the house.
No matter how much money is in the account, Robby Hoffman cannot bring herself to spend $7.99 on a small container of raspberries. It's not logic — it's emotional conditioning baked in by poverty, and it never fully goes away.
Despite having money in the bank, Robby Hoffman says she is not emotionally in a place to spend $7.99 on raspberries, illustrating how deep class conditioning runs.
Robby Hoffman's great-uncle refused to leave his room once gas in Montreal rose to $1 per litre, a formative illustration of poverty-driven paralysis.
Robby Hoffman grew up the seventh of ten children in a Hasidic household in Crown Heights, Brooklyn, with an abusive father and very little money.
Chapter 5 · 07:42
Crown Heights Memories: An Abusive Father, 10 Kids on the Floor
Asked about her earliest memories of Crown Heights, Hoffman pauses before going somewhere she says she doesn't always go. She describes the summers as brutally hot, the family without air conditioning while her parents had one unit in their bedroom window. Ten children slept on the floor in their underwear — on couch cushions, improvised mattresses. But the deeper difficulty was her father. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman describes childhood summers in Crown Heights with no AC, 10 kids sleeping on the floor of a single room, and a father who was…" 07:42 She is careful not to be entirely uncharitable — her father was 35 with ten children, her mother was 30 with ten children, neither had adequate resources, and she tries to give some grace to the pressures they were under. But she is clear: he was physically abusive to her mother for years. Her own childhood adaptation was to become invisible around him. She describes being five or six, walking to the kitchen for a snack, spotting her father sitting there, and simply saying 'Oh, didn't see you there' before retreating. It's a quiet, devastating detail about a childhood spent on high alert.
Claims made here
Robby Hoffman's father was 35 years old when he had 10 children, and her mother was 30 with 10 children.
Robby Hoffman describes childhood summers in Crown Heights with no AC, 10 kids sleeping on the floor of a single room, and a father who was physically abusive to her mother. At age 5 or 6, she would spot her father in the kitchen and simply turn around and leave.
Robby Hoffman contextualises her father's abuse partly through his extreme youth — he was 35 with 10 children — and lack of resources.
Chapter 6 · 10:50
Funny as a Family Language and a Survival Tool
Garcia-Navarro asks when Hoffman realised she was funny, and the answer is instructive: probably later, because everyone in her family was funny. Her father was funny, her mother is hysterical, and the whole household operated with a brutal, unfiltered humour that had no sense of what was off-limits. Hoffman frames this as cultural and also as necessary: when you can't afford decorum, you find other ways to cope. She shares an early joke from her career — about her sister, who worked at Starbucks and walked home late at night through dark blocks by mimicking a physical disability to make herself less attractive to sexual predators. Hoffman used to do the walk on stage; she no longer does. But she offers it as evidence that comedy is not always polite, it is not always comfortable, and it sometimes grows directly from the mechanisms people use to survive dangerous circumstances. She then pivots to a broader point: the very concept of 'comfort' is a rich person's concept.
Chapter 7 · 13:40
Comfort Is a Rich Concept: Class, Money, and Silence
The conversation pivots to a broader observation about language and class. Hoffman notes that wealthy people describe their upbringings as 'comfortable' — a word that sanitises what they mean and erases anyone who truly had nothing. Growing up, she never had the luxury of not knowing about money: there was one telephone on a table in the entrance hall, and her mother was on it every day, screaming about whether there was enough money for bus passes. The walls were thin, the rooms were shared, there was no escaping the financial anxiety of the household. By contrast, rich families have siloed rooms, closed doors, and a culture of not talking about money. Hoffman argues this silence is itself a form of privilege — and that the rich, who talk about comfort most, are often the least comfortable with anything real. The poor, she insists, know how to actually relax once the pressure is off.
Growing up, Robby Hoffman's family had a single shared phone on a table in the entrance, meaning she heard her mother's financial struggles constantly with no ability to escape the conversation.
Chapter 8 · 16:40
Leaving Crown Heights: Her Mother's Escape and the Move to Montreal
Garcia-Navarro has done her research — including the Florida interlude that Hoffman says she usually skips over — and the conversation turns to the family's escape. Hoffman's grandfather came and took her mother out, and the family left her father behind. The move to Canada was not an overnight exit from religion: Hoffman kept kosher until 19, and they relocated to a Montreal neighbourhood home to the same Hasidic sect. The biggest change, Hoffman explains, was the absence of the father — which by Jewish law meant her mother assumed the traditionally male religious duties: kiddush on Friday night, havdalah at the close of the Sabbath. The real story behind the family's broader transition, Hoffman emphasises, is her mother's story. A deeply well-read woman, fluent in English, her mother began to notice that her sons were being educated exclusively in Yiddish and Torah — that they were not learning their own language, not learning the classics. She started asking: is this what I want for my children's lives? That question, combined with surviving years of abuse, drove the entire family's departure from the insular community.
Claims made here
Under Jewish law, when a father is absent from the home, the mother takes on traditionally male religious commandments such as kiddush and havdalah.
Robby Hoffman's brothers in the Hasidic community were not learning English — they were learning Yiddish and Torah exclusively.
Even after her family left the ultra-Orthodox community, Robby Hoffman remained kosher until she was 19, reflecting a gradual rather than sudden religious transition.
Robby Hoffman's mother taught herself English, read the classics, and decided she didn't want her sons growing up only able to speak Yiddish and read the Torah. Beyond surviving her husband's abuse, she was asking a deeper question: what kind of people are we going to be? That question drove the whole family's escape.
Chapter 10 · 23:05
Outed at 17: The Bathroom Stall, the Cafeteria Walk, and Almost No Friends Left
Hoffman takes Garcia-Navarro through the outing in careful, almost cinematic detail. She had a girlfriend — Italian, who wanted to be public — but Hoffman was not willing to come out. She was already living alone, working nearly full-time, studying full-time, and simply could not take on another thing. At a student bar one night, she slipped into a bathroom stall with her girlfriend. The door swung open. A girl from school saw them. Something was clearly going on. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman was 17 when a bathroom stall door swung open at a student bar, and by the next day she had lost almost every friend she had. …" 23:05 By the next day, Hoffman says it felt like everybody knew. Walking through the cafeteria — like a scene from A Walk to Remember — she could hear the whispers. She lost all but two friends overnight at 17. She credits a friend named Malay and a friend named Allie, whose mother had always been kind, with being a lifeline when almost everyone else disappeared. She describes it, plainly and without drama, as lucky to have survived.
Claims made here
Robby Hoffman lost all but two of her friends after being outed as gay at age 17.
Robby Hoffman was 17 when a bathroom stall door swung open at a student bar, and by the next day she had lost almost every friend she had. She describes walking through the cafeteria to whispers as one of the worst moments of her life — saved only by two friends who reached out and said they didn't care.
After being outed as gay at 17 via a bathroom incident at a student bar, Robby Hoffman lost virtually all of her friends the next day.
Chapter 11 · 26:12
Rivka by Day, Robbie by Night: The Accountant Who Did Standup
Garcia-Navarro traces Hoffman's path from Crown Heights to McGill University, where she studied accounting and eventually landed her first steady paycheck at an accounting firm. But she was also beginning to do standup, and the firm's culture demanded total professional dedication — the kind where you don't leave at 7 PM for comedy shows. Hoffman's solution was simple: she used her given name Rivka professionally and performed as Robbie, borrowing the name from an uncle with the same initial. She dismisses any Beyoncé Sasha Fierce reading of it — it was not an alter ego, just an extremely practical decision by someone who needed the accounting income while testing whether comedy might be a real career.
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Robby Hoffman studied accounting at McGill University and worked at an accounting firm using her legal name Rivka while performing standup under the name Robbie.
Robby Hoffman studied accounting at McGill University, working under her given name Rivka at an accounting firm while performing standup as Robbie to keep the two lives separate.
After graduating from McGill, Robby Hoffman worked at an accounting firm under her given name Rivka while performing standup as Robbie to prevent her employer from knowing she was leaving at 7 PM to do comedy shows. It wasn't a Beyoncé Sasha Fierce alter-ego — it was just practical survival.
Chapter 12 · 27:40
The Stage as Womb: Comedy as Calling, Not Choice
Garcia-Navarro references a 2014 TEDx talk in which Hoffman said 'comedy chooses you' and 'the stage is where I'd like to live.' Hoffman's response is immediate and visceral: in small talk, dinner parties, one-on-one settings, she is deeply uncomfortable. But when the lights go dark and the spotlight hits her, she feels like she's in a womb. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman is deeply socially anxious in small settings, but when the lights go dark and the spotlight hits, she feels like she's in a w…" 27:40 She compares herself to a Jackson Pollock — an artist who needs a massive canvas, who can't work in small, polite formats. The theatres she performs in now are her natural habitat. She then revisits the moment standup made it clear she had to choose: she had planned to marry well, get a stable job, live middle-class, maybe have a condo. She was gay now, the accounting job was going, and pursuing art looked like the poorest possible option for someone trying not to be poor. But she felt it was a calling — and you don't ignore a calling.
Robby Hoffman is deeply socially anxious in small settings, but when the lights go dark and the spotlight hits, she feels like she's in a womb. She's convinced comedy chose her — and says you can usually tell when someone chose comedy without it choosing them back.
Chapter 14 · 32:50
Pit Bulls, Celiacs, and the Comedy Backlash Pecking Order
Garcia-Navarro notes that Hoffman has joked about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions — and asks if there's a backlash she's felt. Hoffman finds the actual backlash hilarious: of everything in that special, the pit bull community came for her first, and they are, she says, as scary as the dogs. The only other community to mount a serious attack was celiacs — and Hoffman points out with some irony that she may have raised more celiac awareness than any earnest advocate. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman joked about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions in her Netflix special — and the only communities to mount a serious ba…" 32:50 She notes that celiac is disproportionately diagnosed in white women with healthcare access, and that people of colour are less likely to receive the diagnosis due to lack of healthcare. She then makes a sharp parallel to antisemitism: yes, it's bad, she doesn't want it, but when her Mexican neighbours are being rounded up or living in fear of deportation, that is her bigger focus right now. The conversation closes on her cleanest line of the episode: being offended is not the worst thing. Being poor is.
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Celiac disease disproportionately goes undiagnosed among people of colour in the US due to lack of access to healthcare.
Anti-Mexican sentiment in the United States is currently resulting in people being rounded up or living in fear of deportation.
Robby Hoffman joked about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions in her Netflix special — and the only communities to mount a serious backlash were pit bull owners and celiacs. She jokes they're both dominated by rich white women, and notes with some irony that she may have raised more celiac awareness than anyone.
Despite joking about AIDS, pedophilia, and late-term abortions in her Netflix special, the only communities to seriously come after Robby Hoffman were pit bull owners and celiac sufferers.
Robby Hoffman refuses to prioritise antisemitism above anti-Mexican sentiment in the current US political climate. She says she has bigger focuses right now — her neighbors who are living in fear of being rounded up — and she won't be grabbed into an us-versus-them dynamic.
Robby Hoffman was born poor, born into chaos, and born offended. She says the modern expectation of living a life free from offense is a luxury she never had and never expects. Being offended is survivable. Being poor, she says, is worse.
Chapter 15 · 36:10
Emmy Nomination, Hacks, and the Yiddish Grammar War
Garcia-Navarro shifts to Hoffman's TV career, and Hoffman lights up: Hacks changed her life, the Emmy nomination was surreal, and she has no complaints. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman's role as Randy in Hacks — a Hasidic Jew from Crown Heights turned Hollywood assistant — netted her an Emmy nomination despit…" 37:10 But Garcia-Navarro has found something that clearly still stings — a piece in a Jewish publication titled 'How Hacks Botched Its Yiddish Line.' The article argued that a Yiddish line Hoffman delivered in a late-season gag was grammatically incorrect. Hoffman's rebuttal is pointed: her mother, a fluent Yiddish speaker, gave her the word. The grammar around it might have been imperfect, but the word was right. And the broader irony is scalding — the Jewish community wanted representation and got Yiddish on a major TV comedy, and then the same community's press took issue with the grammar. Her little sister, Hoffman notes, is thrilled by the scrutiny: it means Robby isn't a nobody anymore.
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Robby Hoffman received an Emmy nomination for her role in Hacks despite having only six lines in the part.
Robby Hoffman's mother is fluent in Yiddish and was consulted for a Yiddish line used in the TV show Hacks.
Robby Hoffman's role as Randy in Hacks — a Hasidic Jew from Crown Heights turned Hollywood assistant — netted her an Emmy nomination despite the character having just six lines. It's not lost on her that the role basically mirrors her own biography, and she has zero complaints.
Robby Hoffman received an Emmy nomination for her role in Hacks despite having only six lines in the part.
Chapter 17 · 42:05
Fame, Scrutiny, and the Rich vs. Poor Lens
The second half of the interview begins with Garcia-Navarro asking how Hoffman is handling the transition to a much higher level of fame, and whether the scrutiny is getting to her. Hoffman is pragmatic: her career has grown slowly enough that she feels prepared. But she's also clear about what she doesn't want — to get sucked into the machine of dividing people by 'the red and the blue of it all.' Her analysis of why her shows are successful is characteristically direct: she doesn't participate in petty squabbles when bigger things are happening. At her core, she says, it has always been rich versus poor — that's the division that matters, the one that explains almost everything else, and the one she keeps returning to no matter what question she's asked.
Chapter 18 · 44:40
Gabby Windey: The Traitors, Marriage, and Choosing Your Family
Garcia-Navarro pivots to Gabby Windey, noting that the relationship has compounded Hoffman's public profile. Hoffman immediately says 'Thank God for her' with genuine warmth. She thought Gabby would be a Faithful on The Traitors, not a Traitor — she doesn't think either of them have the temperament for strategic lying, and she suspects she'd be out first on any such show. Gabby is a fighter, though, and Hoffman's weekly phone calls to her during filming were simple: take the money and come home. [1] — Robby Hoffman "Robby Hoffman and Gabby Windey both came from difficult backgrounds, but Gabby's instability meant she used to stay silent about small grie…" 47:20 The conversation turns more tender when Garcia-Navarro asks how they figured out what a good relationship looks like given both of their difficult upbringings. Hoffman explains that her own mother was always home — a source of stability even in poverty. Gabby didn't have that consistency; she feared that voicing even small complaints would cause Hoffman to leave. Hoffman describes learning to say: just tell me, I'll close the cabinet. The relationship isn't about healing each other, she says — but healing is the cherry. And it closes with her most quotable observation of the second half: when she was a kid, she was told she couldn't choose her family. Then she found the loophole — marriage. Choose wisely.
Robby Hoffman and Gabby Windey both came from difficult backgrounds, but Gabby's instability meant she used to stay silent about small grievances — like a cabinet left open — for fear Robby would leave. Robby's response: just tell me, I'll close the cabinet. The relationship isn't about healing each other, but healing is the cherry on top.
Robby Hoffman frames her marriage to Gabby Windey as the one loophole in life that lets you choose your family rather than being assigned one.
Chapter 19 · 50:00
Class Is the Conversation: A Final Reckoning
Garcia-Navarro offers a closing observation: America always wants to present itself as aspirational and hides the ugliness — the trauma, the poverty, the things underneath. She suggests that what makes Hoffman so provocative is that she insists on putting that front and centre. Hoffman agrees, and admits she feels this dissonance acutely when doing interviews for elite publications like the Times. She commits, simply, to always being herself no matter the context. The conclusion she offers is plain but resonant: classism affects everybody, the conversation about economic inequality is not a new conversation, and it is not a side conversation — it is the conversation. Seth, the producer sitting on the floor of her hotel room, nods in agreement.
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Robby Hoffman's wife; former contestant on The Bachelor and Bachelorette and a breakout on The Traitors. Discussed as a central figure in Hoffman's personal life and emotional growth.
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Referenced by Robby Hoffman as an example of a comedian who jokes about a group (trans people) he does not belong to, used to illustrate her view that anyone can joke about anything at their own risk.
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Teased as the subject of the next interview on the podcast, with a clip playing in the outro about the ego required to perform at his level.
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Publisher of The Interview podcast; Robby Hoffman repeatedly remarks on the prestige and discomfort of being interviewed by the Times in her own home.
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Sponsor of the episode; advertises no-fee, no-minimum checking accounts and Capital One Cafés open seven days a week.
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Canadian university where Robby Hoffman studied accounting before beginning her standup career.
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Streaming platform that aired Robby Hoffman's standup special 'Wake Up', referenced when discussing the backlash she received for taboo jokes.
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Sponsor of the episode; advertises an AI platform built on live global workforce data to solve business problems.
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HBO Max comedy series in which Robby Hoffman plays Randy, a former Hasidic Jew from Crown Heights who becomes a Hollywood assistant. The role earned her an Emmy nomination.
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Reality TV competition show on which Robby Hoffman's wife Gabby Windey appeared and was described as a breakout performer.
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Brooklyn neighbourhood where Robby Hoffman grew up in an ultra-Orthodox Hasidic family; described as having been dangerous in her childhood with frequent robberies.
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City in Quebec, Canada, where Robby Hoffman's family relocated after her grandfather helped her mother escape the abusive household. She grew up there and began standup comedy there.
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Celiac disease disproportionately goes undiagnosed among people of colour in the US due to lack of access to healthcare.
Gas prices in Montreal were approximately 70 cents per litre in Robby Hoffman's childhood, rising to one dollar — at which point her great-uncle refused to leave the house.
Robby Hoffman's father was 35 years old when he had 10 children, and her mother was 30 with 10 children.
Robby Hoffman received an Emmy nomination for her role in Hacks despite having only six lines in the part.
Robby Hoffman's mother is fluent in Yiddish and was consulted for a Yiddish line used in the TV show Hacks.
Under Jewish law, when a father is absent from the home, the mother takes on traditionally male religious commandments such as kiddush and havdalah.
Robby Hoffman's brothers in the Hasidic community were not learning English — they were learning Yiddish and Torah exclusively.
Robby Hoffman studied accounting at McGill University and worked at an accounting firm using her legal name Rivka while performing standup under the name Robbie.
Anti-Mexican sentiment in the United States is currently resulting in people being rounded up or living in fear of deportation.
Robby Hoffman lost all but two of her friends after being outed as gay at age 17.
Gas prices in the Los Angeles area were approximately seven dollars per gallon at the time of recording.
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