Snapshot · The Daily
Growing up, Robby Hoffman's family had a single shared phone on a table in the entrance, meaning she heard her mother's financial struggles constantly with no ability to escape the conversation.
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The conversation pivots to a broader observation about language and class. Hoffman notes that wealthy people describe their upbringings as 'comfortable' — a word that sanitises what they mean and erases anyone who truly had nothing. Growing up, she never had the luxury of not knowing about money: there was one telephone on a table in the entrance hall, and her mother was on it every day, screaming about whether there was enough money for bus passes. The walls were thin, the rooms were shared, there was no escaping the financial anxiety of the household. By contrast, rich families have siloed rooms, closed doors, and a culture of not talking about money. Hoffman argues this silence is itself a form of privilege — and that the rich, who talk about comfort most, are often the least comfortable with anything real. The poor, she insists, know how to actually relax once the pressure is off.
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