Podbit · The Shawn Ryan Show
Clark's A-gunner Chan later returned to Parris Island and reported that the obstacle course the Marines once had to complete is now for display only — allegedly because female Marines couldn't complete it. Clark shares this with some skepticism but notes it lines up with a broader cultural shift in military standards he's observed since his era.
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Clark's enlistment journey is a chain of improbable events. He shows up alone to the recruiter after all three football teammates back out. Navy doctors try to reject him for a hernia he doesn't have; he responds with one-arm push-ups and backflips until they relent. His first night in a Jacksonville hotel, a man opens fire in the lobby and bullets chase Clark up the stairs. At Parris Island, he witnesses a Marine driven to the water tower threatening to jump — and DIs who told him to do it, then beat him when he came down. The obstacle course that defined Marine training is now reportedly for display only [1] — Johnnie Clark "Clark's A-gunner Chan later returned to Parris Island and reported that the obstacle course the Marines once had to complete is now for dis…" 36:36 . A Tijuana bar fight lands Clark and Chan in the Tijuana brig, then a Navy brig, then Camp Pendleton's feared Red Line Brig — where prisoners' faces are held against a wall stained red with blood — before they're released the next morning to board a Braniff Airlines flight to Vietnam.
Chan was smuggled out of Communist China as an infant by his doctor father. He had a college degree and a minor in ministry and could have been commissioned as an officer. Instead, he chose to enlist as a machine gunner to pay America back for giving his family refuge. Seventeen arm surgeries ended his surgical career — but he became the world's leading cardiovascular perfusion expert.
When Clark arrived in Vietnam, every machine gunner in the 5th Marine Regiment had already been killed or wounded, forcing mortarmen and others to pick up the M60.
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