Podbit · Parenting Hell with Rob Beckett and Josh Widdicombe
Josh's cat Fluffball was found panting like a dog during the heatwave and rushed to the emergency vet, where she was placed in an oxygen chamber after a heart murmur was detected. The murmur vanished by Tuesday — the vet suspects the heat gave her a panic attack.
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The centrepiece of the episode is Josh's Father's Day story, told with escalating absurdity. He's at the emergency vet on a Sunday waiting to hear if Fluffball is okay, when he realises he desperately needs the toilet. The vet directs him to a toilet 'outside' — which turns out to be a festival-style cabin behind a padlocked gate. A member of staff has to escort him and unlock it. Inside, there are no windows and no visible light switch. His phone is charging at the front desk. He uses the pitch-black toilet in total darkness, only for the motion-sensor light to activate the moment he stands up. He describes it as 'Father's Day'. Rob's observation is perfect: the vet staff will absolutely know it was him. [1] — Josh Widdicombe "Desperate for the toilet while his cat recovered in an oxygen chamber on Father's Day, Josh had to negotiate a padlocked outdoor vet toilet…" 30:00
Rob and Josh filmed a TV pilot in Canterbury involving giant inflatable balls, covering 16,000 steps in 30-degree heat, leaving Rob unable to walk for two days.
Since moving to Exeter, Josh keeps encountering people who say they're 'more of a rugby person' when he asks about football. He compares it to saying you prefer S Club 7 to the Beatles.
Josh's daughter broke her arm doing a cartwheel and had to go under general anaesthetic to have it reset — a proper break, not a minor fracture.
Desperate for the toilet while his cat recovered in an oxygen chamber on Father's Day, Josh had to negotiate a padlocked outdoor vet toilet — then used it in complete darkness because the motion-sensor light only activated when he stood up.
Josh had to use an outdoor, padlocked, windowless toilet at the emergency vet on Father's Day, in total darkness because the motion-sensor light didn't activate until he stood up.
After an emergency vet visit and a follow-up with a heart specialist, Fluffball's heart murmur could not be found — the vet suspects the hot weather triggered the episode.
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