Podbit · The Indicator from Planet Money
Myra Kwadja and Natalie Moore both have sharp critiques of how the Obama Center handled housing displacement. But they've had to be careful: national media — including secretly right-wing outlets — want to use their nuance as anti-Obama ammunition. Ideally nuanced critique, Kwadja says, can't become fodder for white supremacists.
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Natalie Moore flags an important distinction that often got lost in the national media coverage of opposition to the Obama Center: not everyone pushing back was a housing organizer fighting for Black residents' right to stay. There was also Protect Our Parks, a white-led group whose argument was purely about parkland — they didn't think any private entity should be allowed to build on Jackson Park. Courts disagreed repeatedly, and a final ruling in 2018 cleared the way for construction. Moore's observation is pointed: a group that doesn't otherwise engage with questions of racial equity in housing or public space chose specifically and repeatedly to fight the Obama Center. That choice, she says, is very intentional and curious. Myra Kwadja adds that this distinction made the housing advocates' messaging challenge harder — they constantly had to clarify that their critique was 'Yes, Obama Center, no displacement,' not aligned with a white-led group with entirely different and possibly hostile motivations.
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