Quote · On Purpose with Jay Shetty
CAMILA MENDES: "Perfectionism Was Ruining My Life"
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Choosing Love in the Hardest Moments
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Camila and Jay dig into the complicated territory of loving publicly. As Brazilians, both she and Rudy are naturally physically demonstrative — their friends joke about how annoyingly affectionate they are. But her industry demands some restraint. The solution Jay offers is elegant: don't dim your public warmth; just make your private life even richer. [1] — Jay Shetty "Your public life should be good, but your private life should be better." 1:06:26 You always keep the best parts for each other. Camila then opens up about something more difficult: there was a period in her relationship with Rudy where she felt like she was doing most of the emotional work. She had done nearly a decade of therapy and had just completed Hoffman; he hadn't yet started therapy at all. The post-Hoffman clarity threw their dynamic into sharper relief — she had changed, and the gap was visible. When Rudy finally started individual therapy (after Camila had been recommending it for a long time), the relationship problems began to dissolve. Meeting halfway, she says, made everything click.
Camila rejects the idea that you have to be completely healed before you fall in love again. Some wounds are invisible until you start loving — they only surface when a new relationship holds up a mirror. Real healing happens in connection, not just in solitude.
