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Backstage Etiquette: Costner, Kendrick, and the Rules of Fame
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Jason argues it's presumptuous for famous audience members to assume they're welcome backstage — you're not doing the performer a favour by showing up. Marcus agrees instinctively, then pivots to a story that perfectly illustrates the opposite: Kendrick Lamar headlined Bonnaroo and 'sent word down from on high' that Kendrick would like to see Marcus. [1] — Marcus Mumford "Kendrick Lamar invited Marcus backstage after his Bonnaroo headline set. Marcus walked in to find Kendrick stripping down to his underwear …" 10:30 When Kendrick summons you, you go. Marcus walked in to find Kendrick already stripped to his underwear, utterly unconcerned. Pure gumption. Sean then counters with the most famous backstage slight in pop history: Kevin Costner telling a post-show, sweat-drenched Madonna that her show was 'really neat.' [2] — Sean Hayes "After three hours of performing for 5,000 people, drenched in sweat, Madonna got this from Kevin Costner: 'We thought it was really neat.' …" 09:58 She turned to the camera the moment he left and essentially dismissed him on the spot. The contrast between Kendrick's radical confidence and Costner's polite cluelessness gives the segment its brilliant comic energy.
Going backstage uninvited after a show is arrogant, not flattering. Both Jason and Marcus agree: sharing fame doesn't mean you're welcome in someone's dressing room.
After three hours of performing for 5,000 people, drenched in sweat, Madonna got this from Kevin Costner: 'We thought it was really neat.' She turned to the camera and said he had to go.
Kendrick Lamar invited Marcus backstage after his Bonnaroo headline set. Marcus walked in to find Kendrick stripping down to his underwear — and Marcus called it pure gumption.
