Why You Tolerate a Relationship You Know Should End | Gary John Bishop

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Not Your Job to Make Them Happy

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Lewis Howes offers a personal example: when he first started seeing his girlfriend Martha, he told her directly that he had spent years in previous relationships trying to change himself to make partners happy — and it had only ever made him resentful. He vowed he would never do that again, while still committing to growth and giving his best. Gary John Bishop immediately responds, saying that is exactly the right position, and connects it to his own marriage: his wife's emotions are hers to carry, not his to fix, and he takes the same responsibility for his own equilibrium. The resulting freedom in his marriage, he says, is profound — there is no pressure, no invisible requirement for the relationship to look a certain way.