The School of Greatness

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Why You Tolerate a Relationship You Know Should End | Gary John Bishop

Explore episode Jul 10, 2026

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Children Are Vast; Adults Are Narrow

At 35:28 · chapter starts 34:50

Bishop observes that if you watch a two-year-old, you'll see something ontologically remarkable: they can flip between radically different emotional and behavioural states in seconds. Their ways of being are vast. By your late teens, through thousands of mostly unconscious decisions, that vast field has narrowed to a fixed lane — and most of adulthood is spent simply repeating the self you were the second before. He draws on quantum physics as a metaphor: every second holds multiple potential versions of you, but you typically default to the version you just were. The work of awareness is to interrupt that default — to notice the constraint, name it, and realise that change is available right now, in this moment, without needing any particular circumstance to shift first.

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