No concept of 'too soon'
Robby's Hasidic community had no concept of 'too soon' in comedy — if it was funny, you threw it, and if you bombed, your sibling told you immediately.
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Growing Up Hasidic: Brutal, Funny, and Never Too Soon
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Jason Bateman steers the conversation toward Robby's upbringing, noting that having a sense of humor about religious life must have been both a gift and a source of anxiety. Robby clarifies: nothing was off limits in her community. Her whole family is funny; her whole people are funny. The idea of 'too soon' entered her vocabulary only when she started moving in what she calls 'more normal white or rich spaces.' In her house, if a joke was funny, you threw it — and if it landed badly, your brother hit you and moved on. With 10 kids at home, feedback was immediate and unsentimental. There was crying and laughing simultaneously, never neat lines, never a time and place. This total absence of emotional compartmentalization, she argues, is what created her comedy — not a decision to be edgy, but an upbringing that made edginess the default.
Growing Up Hasidic: No Such Thing As Too Soon
In Robby Hoffman's family, there was no concept of 'too soon.' Comedy was immediate, brutal, and cultural — if it was funny, you threw it, and if you bombed, your brother hit you on the spot.
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