1 in 6 men sexually abused
Lewis Howes shared the statistic that 1 in 6 men and 1 in 4 women have been sexually abused, a reality most men never discuss publicly.
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The Grief Expert Who Discovered a Sixth Stage | David Kessler
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Aug 10, 2026
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Lewis's Public Disclosure, Meaning-Making, and Healing at Scale
At 46:06 · chapter starts 43:20
Kessler pauses to honor Lewis's meaning-making — his choice to turn his worst experience into a public resource for millions of men. Lewis picks up the thread and traces the full arc: the emotional intelligence workshop where he first spoke it aloud, the slow process of telling friends and family, the realization that the story still had power over him because he hadn't told his audience. He recorded the episode months before posting, paralyzed by fear of judgment — then finally posted it anyway, choosing freedom over fear of loss. That episode became the most downloaded in the show's history and led directly to 'The Mask of Masculinity' [1] — David Kessler "26 online grief groups at grief.com: Kessler's Tender Hearts program at grief.com offers 26 specialized online grief groups covering differ…" 1:12:14 . He cites the statistics he learned: 1 in 6 men, 1 in 4 women have been sexually abused — but most men never have a safe space to name it. Kessler adds the definitive framing for what had happened: healing is when the event no longer controls you [2] — Lewis Howes "1 in 6 men sexually abused: Lewis Howes shared the statistic that 1 in 6 men and 1 in 4 women have been sexually abused, a reality most men…" 46:06 . Lewis controlled the event by speaking it; it had controlled him for 25 years before.
Healing: event no longer controls you
Kessler defines healing not as forgetting or moving on, but as reaching the state where the past event no longer controls one's present behavior.
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