Snapshot · Call Her Daddy
After losing her brother, Riley turned to Reddit forums and Instagram DMs with strangers to find people who had experienced similar losses, finding it one of the most comforting resources.
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Alex opens the conversation about addiction support by noting how many of her listeners are in families touched by it, and Riley engages with unusual depth and specificity. [1] — Riley Keough "Riley spent years trying to drag her mother into rehab and keep all the plates spinning, only to watch addiction ultimately claim two famil…" 47:28 She says she has had multiple family members — not just her mother — deal with addiction, though she declines to name others out of respect for their privacy. She has spent years trying: dragging Lisa Marie toward rehab, making plans, spinning plates. The hardest realization was that the person across from her was not participating in her plan. She was making enormous effort toward someone who was not present to receive it. Eventually, addiction took two of her family members, and she was forced into the surrender she had resisted. She shares her mother's conviction that tough love doesn't work — a view Riley fully endorses — and explains that she never withdrew love during even the hardest moments of her family members' addiction, always operating from empathy. She wouldn't take back the effort. But the lesson, she says slowly, is one she's still not sure she knows how to articulate.
Lisa Marie Presley firmly believed that tough love does not work for people struggling with addiction, a view Riley says she fully agrees with.
After losing her brother, Riley found no resources — just Reddit forums and Instagram DMs with strangers. That led her to the death doula community, and eventually she trained and got certified. A death doula does for dying what a birth doula does for birth.
Spencer Greenberg and Jeremy Stevenson analyzed almost 500 self-improvement techniques and found they all reduce to just 12 underlying psychological drivers.
Cold exposure has good short-term alertness benefits but the evidence base for long-term health benefits is much weaker than popularly believed.
In a randomized study of 20 habit-formation techniques run on hundreds of people, almost none of the techniques produced statistically meaningful results.
People given a tiny-habit fallback option (e.g. 10 squats instead of gym) were actually MORE successful at completing the full habit, not less.
The most effective habit-formation technique was 'habit reflection' — recalling a past successful habit, writing down what helped, then applying those lessons to a new habit.
A study found that simply scheduling enjoyable activities was as effective as standard cognitive behavioral therapy for depression, leading to its own therapy called behavioral activation.
The 'worry time' technique — deferring all worries to a designated time of day — helps people realize they have more control over worry than they thought and reveals it is less useful than it feels.
A study found that participants told to try to stay awake while in bed fell asleep faster than participants told to try to sleep — illustrating the paradox of direct effort.
Spencer Greenberg reduced his severe social anxiety dramatically in roughly 6 months through a structured exposure therapy hierarchy, culminating in asking strangers for hugs.
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