Uninvited stranger at Bobby's dinner
Carlos Herrera let an unverified fan — who claimed to be Akash Singh's brother but wasn't — into Bobby Lee's post-show dinner and green room in Toronto.
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Carlos Goes Full Robin Williams
At 7:30 · chapter starts 4:00
Bobby Lee lays out gripe number one with the precision of a prosecutor. Carlos Herrera was asked to do two things on stage before the Toronto show: ask the crowd not to heckle, and to put their phones away. Simple. But Carlos returned from the wings buzzing, looked Bobby in the eye, and said 'I feel like Robin Williams.' Bobby's response is surgical. He offers an analogy: a father invites his 15-year-old son to the construction site for a day, lets the kid hammer in the final nail, and the son declares 'I built a house.' That's the Carlos situation. Bobby then delivers his knockout line: Robin Williams, had he still been alive, never would have felt that particular brand of deluded cockiness — because talent precludes that kind of ego [1] — Bobby Lee "I bet you money, I bet you money that if Robin Williams was still alive, right, that feeling that you had, he never had." 05:22 .
Carlos Robin Williams comparison
Carlos Herrera compared himself to Robin Williams after delivering a 30-second cold-open announcement at Bobby Lee's Toronto show.
The Stranger at Dinner
Carlos Herrera introduced a man at Bobby Lee's private Toronto post-show dinner as 'Akash Singh's brother' — a claim that turned out to be fabricated. The man had simply DMed the Bad Friends page saying he'd 'look after Bobby' when Akash was in town.
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