Snapshot · Parenting Hell with Rob Beckett and Josh Widdicombe
Josh Widdicombe has been sleeping on a futon on the floor — with no mattress — for months while house renovations run over, and won't get a proper bed until end of July.
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While all the cat and arm drama was unfolding, Josh was also dealing with cluster flies — around 30 of them — in his single functioning downstairs room, having hatched from eggs laid in the window frame over winter. The solution turned out to be simply opening the window, but the family spent a full day not realising this because the windows were locked and they'd never had cause to open them. This chapter also expands on Josh's living situation: Phase 1 of renovations takes up 75% of the house, and he's confined to the remaining 25% until end of July. He's sleeping on a futon on the floor with no mattress — not even his daughter's spare mattress — and has clearly given up caring. Rob is quietly horrified and urges him to order a cheap mattress immediately.
Josh Widdicombe is currently living in the 25% of his house that is Phase 2 of renovations — one bedroom, one sitting room, a futon on the floor, no mattress, and 30 cluster flies. Phase 1 ends in July.
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