Snapshot · Parenting Hell with Rob Beckett and Josh Widdicombe
Rob reflected that over-scheduling weekends with activities can make family time more stressful than relaxing, and he is now actively trying to leave weekends unplanned.
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Rob had two separate one-on-one days with his daughters over the weekend, both deliberately unplanned. The first involved a trip to the Glades shopping centre with the goal of floating: no agenda, no bookings. For about ninety minutes this was fine. Then came the creeping awareness of nothing to do, and his daughter herself admitted that having a plan is actually good. They ended up in an arcade playing Mario Kart with sweat dripping off their noses in 34-degree heat, then bowling, then a spontaneous stop at M&S for a new top (for her), and finally Miller and Carter for a fillet steak kids menu at about £16 for two courses. Rob uses the story to interrogate a longer pattern: 15 years of hectic professional life have made him treat weekends like a tour schedule, packing them with destinations and activities until they feel like work. He's actively trying to break the habit — but as Josh points out, he's been saying this for four years.
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