Podbit · On Purpose with Jay Shetty
You don't change by understanding a mindset — you change by practicing it until it becomes the lens through which you automatically see. That takes repetition, time, and the courage to apply the idea even when the situation makes the old habit easier.
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Jay opens this final mindset with a teaching story — a student asking a teacher the difference between 'I like you' and 'I love you' — and the answer: 'When you like a flower, you pluck it. When you love a flower, you water it every day.' The cultural myth of love as a feeling — a lightning bolt, a chemistry, a spark that either is or isn't there — is everywhere in rom-coms, love songs, and dating apps, Jay says, and it is responsible for enormous unnecessary suffering. Robert Sternberg's triangular theory [1] — Jay Shetty "Passion is the shortest-lived love component: Robert Sternberg's triangular theory of love identifies passion, intimacy, and commitment as …" 27:40 identifies passion, intimacy, and commitment as the three components of genuine love, finding that passion has the shortest lifespan, peaking early and declining predictably in every relationship regardless of compatibility. The neurochemicals of early love — dopamine and norepinephrine — are a starter motor, not an engine. What remains after the chemistry fades is a series of daily, often mundane, often imperfect choices. John Gottman's research [2] — Jay Shetty "Gottman's bids for connection predict relationship survival: John Gottman's research found the key variable in lasting relationships is whe…" 29:20 found that the key variable in whether relationships survive is whether small daily bids for connection — a joke, a touch, a question, a look — are turned toward rather than away from. The relationships that last are not the most passionate or the most compatible; they are the ones where both people, most of the time, in the small moments that feel like they don't count, choose to turn toward each other.
Robert Sternberg's triangular theory of love identifies passion, intimacy, and commitment as the three components — and passion has the shortest lifespan, peaking early and declining predictably.
John Gottman's research found the key variable in lasting relationships is whether small daily bids for connection — a joke, a touch, a question — are turned toward rather than away from.
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