Bernthal knows adversity shaped everything good about him. He also knows it came razor-close to destroying him — and he's lost people who didn't make it through. So he teaches his kids to swim, to box, to survive the outdoors. He puts them in hard, challenging situations under a safe umbrella. And above all, he asks them: are you a protector? Are you sensitive? Are you curious about people who look and pray differently than you?