Podbit · 2 Bears, 1 Cave with Tom Segura & Bert Kreischer
A newly sober Bert can't figure out why anyone would choose to drink — so he interrogates Tom. Tom admits 99.9% of his drinking is pure social reflex: someone orders, he orders. No craving, just context.
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Bert's health obsession takes center stage as he recalls the Instagram account 'Things Fat Guys Do' and starts unpacking the psychology of unhealthy habits. He recounts the terrifying moment in the hospital when his blood pressure hit 170/110 and nurses turned the monitor away — then reveals it's now 111/72, tracked daily and sent to his cardiologist [1] — Bert Kreischer "On the day Bert got a blood clot, his Whoop spiked his biological age to 60 — now it reads 56 and falling fast. His blood pressure went fro…" 02:35 . The most striking detail: on the exact day he got his blood clot, his Whoop spiked his biological age to 60. Through consistent training, it's now dropped to 56 and falling six months per week. Bert then interrogates Tom on why people ever choose to drink, and Tom's honest answer — almost entirely social reflex — gives Bert a new lens on his own sobriety. The chapter closes with Bert musing that he genuinely can't find a reason to drink anymore.
On the day Bert got a blood clot, his Whoop spiked his biological age to 60 — now it reads 56 and falling fast. His blood pressure went from 170/110 (nurses hid the reading) to a doctor-pleasing 111/72, tracked daily and sent to his cardiologist.
After his health transformation, Bert now takes his blood pressure daily and sends it to his cardiologist — this morning it was a near-perfect 111 over 72.
When Bert was hospitalized with a blood clot, his blood pressure was 170 over 110, so dangerously high nurses turned the monitor away from him.
Bert's Whoop device registered his biological age as 60 years old on the exact day he suffered a blood clot.
After consistent training, Bert's Whoop biological age has fallen from 60 to 56, dropping roughly 6 months per week.
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