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The Lost Art of Disagreement: Debate Club Dinners and the Curated Social Life
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Out of a riff about fantasizing about returning to college, Olivia lights on a concrete idea: a dinner party where each guest finds their assigned debate position under their plate. The point is to rebuild a muscle atrophied by social media — the ability to argue something you don't believe, fully and honestly, in a room with people who disagree with you. Dax endorses it enthusiastically, sharing his own practice of forcing himself to sincerely mount arguments for positions he opposes. The conversation broadens: social media has produced 'curated socializing' where people only gather with those guaranteed to agree. Olivia ties this directly to parenting, arguing she encourages her kids to make better arguments rather than simply obeying — treating teenage rebellion as training for adult conflict resolution.
Olivia Wilde wants to start debate-club dinner parties where guests find their assigned position under their plate — a position they likely disagree with. The point isn't persuasion, it's rebuilding the atrophied muscle of productive disagreement that social media has systematically destroyed.
