#663 - Porn Recovery Coach Steven Wolt

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Recovery Testimonials: What Healing Actually Looks Like

At 58:58 · chapter starts 57:30

After calling men to reclaim their manhood, Steven grounds the episode in concrete stories of healing. ^{[1] — Steven Wolt "One of Valor Recovery's first clients was a 62-year-old man, six years sober in AA, but still drowning in porn and ten years out from any m…" 1:46:47 Play} The most powerful is a 62-year-old client, six years sober in AA but still paralyzed by pornography, who had been divorced for ten years and had not had sex in a decade. When Steven pressed him for a goal beyond 'stop watching porn,' the man finally said: on Sundays he goes grocery shopping alone and sees families and couples, and one day he would like to go grocery shopping with a girl he is dating. Eight months later he sent Steven a photograph of exactly that. Steven wept telling his wife. He also shares the story of a client who called after nine months sober to say he was staring at his wife on the couch and could not believe how pretty she was — the porn-induced fog had lifted and he was seeing her in color for the first time. And then there are the wildcard outcomes: men returning to graduate school, launching businesses, getting raises — all seemingly unrelated to pornography, but all explained by one thing: the shame that had been keeping their lives small had finally lifted.