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Fear of Losing Autonomy and the Nature of Love
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This chapter digs into the psychology of romantic commitment. Bridges argues that the nerves of asking someone out are really the body's alarm system for losing autonomy — not just fear of rejection. He candidly describes living with Sue for three years, going back and forth, until she told him she was returning to Montana because her biological clock was going off. His internal image: a handful of sand with one diamond — Sue — that he couldn't let slip through. He got down on his knees, prayed, proposed, and gave himself the famous caveat: 'You can always get a divorce, man.' Then he pushed for a wedding the same weekend, afraid the feeling would fade. [1] — Jeff Bridges "I gave myself a caveat. I said, you can always get a divorce, man." 09:38
Jeff Bridges and Sue lived together for about 3 years on-and-off before he finally proposed, motivated partly by Sue's biological clock warning.
Jeff Bridges only proposed to Sue after years of resistance by giving himself a mental escape hatch: 'You can always get a divorce, man.' He also insisted on getting married that same weekend — because he didn't know how long he could hold the feeling.
