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Bill in Austin: Bought a House With His Girlfriend, Now Can't Talk About Money
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Bill in Austin, 26, calls about a financial communication problem with his 28-year-old girlfriend of two and a half years. He wants to plan for the future; she shuts down every time he brings it up. As the details emerge, the picture becomes much more complex: they jointly own a house, his name is on her car, he pays every household expense, and she owes money to the IRS. Dave's diagnosis is blunt and sympathetic at once: she is dangling on the end of a hook like a worm over a bass, tied to him financially without any commitment. She has every reason to feel insecure and resentful — and no obligation to take financial direction from 'just the boyfriend.' Bill's urgency about her IRS debt, while correct, lands as controlling and shameful from her perspective. Dave's prescription: pre-marriage counseling this week, a mock budget for when you're married, and a fast decision — get married or start untangling the mess.
