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Dear Toasters: Diamond Necklace Update & Botched Highlights
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The Dear Toasters segment opens with a satisfying callback: a listener who wrote in the previous year about her husband gifting an umbrella and meat thermometer for her 29th birthday followed the hosts' advice to simply tell her husband what she wanted — and received a diamond necklace for her 30th. [1] — Jackie Oshry "Dear Toaster update: ugly hair → diamond necklace: A listener who wrote in last year about receiving an umbrella and meat thermometer for h…" 1:03:25 Jackie uses it as a lesson in direct communication: you can't fault someone for not being a mind reader. Then comes the new letter: a postpartum listener let her sister-in-law — a new hairstylist — do a full head of blonde highlights that came out horrible. She's afraid to fix them because the sister-in-law is so sensitive. Both hosts are immediate and unanimous: get your hair fixed. You are not required to walk around looking bad to protect someone else's feelings. Jackie adds the silver lining: by getting it fixed, you're actually helping your sister-in-law become a better hairstylist.
A listener who wrote in last year about receiving an umbrella and meat thermometer for her 29th birthday followed the hosts' advice to give her husband a list; he surprised her with a diamond necklace for her 30th.
A postpartum listener let her sister-in-law hairstylist botch her highlights and is afraid to fix them. The hosts' verdict is unanimous and immediate: get your hair fixed. You are not required to walk around ugly to protect someone's feelings.
A listener's mother-in-law took her 4-year-old daughter — who had never had a haircut — to get a full bob with bangs, citing a comment about needing a trim before two summer weddings.
A mother-in-law took a 4-year-old who had never had a haircut and returned her with a full bob and bangs, citing a comment about needing a trim. The hosts are united: this woman cannot be trusted with the child alone until the hair grows back.
