Quote · Parenting Hell with Rob Beckett and Josh Widdicombe
S12 EP46: Laura Smyth (The Return)
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Cancer, Comedy and Refusing to Carry Heaviness
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Laura talks about the first tour's name — 'Living My Best Life' — which emerged from a period of genuine celebration after cancer treatment. She'd quit teaching to do comedy full-time, and then got ill just as her new career was starting to feel like any other career with agents and PR teams and panel show ambitions. Cancer reset everything: she became present, stopped wanting for things, and dropped the heaviness she'd been carrying. Rob observes this is exactly how working-class people deal with something horrendous — breezy, matter-of-fact, moving on — while a middle-class person might spend twenty minutes in emotional processing mode. Josh asks, with perfect deadpan, whether — if she had to lose one — she'd have chosen chemo or laughing; Laura can barely contain herself. The segment ends with her articulating a clean philosophy: she doesn't subscribe to manifestation culture because it keeps you in the future, and she's learned to forgive herself and sit lighter with who she is — even if who she is is, admittedly, born naggy.
When a teenager is rude and storming off, don't match the energy — be an absorption sponge. Laura watched her eldest Rosie act out for weeks before discovering a friendship fallout was the real cause. This time with Bonnie, she'll absorb rather than react, set quiet standards, and not pull the stank face back.
