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Confessions of an accidental killer | Gregg Ward
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Regrets, I've Had a Few: Why Society Gets This Wrong
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Ward begins with a cultural diagnosis: Frank Sinatra told us regrets are 'too few to mention,' and society has taken that cue to treat regret as something to be minimized or shrugged off. [1] — Gregg Ward "Society has long encouraged people to minimize regret, treating it like a personal failing rather than a moral signal. Gregg Ward opens by …" 03:22 But Ward argues the opposite is true — for many people, regrets are foundational, shaping their work, their relationships, and how they move through the world. He then makes this personal in the starkest possible way: he is, by his own description, an accidental killer. Late one night, driving home with his high school sweetheart Michelle, he was paying more attention to her than the road, went off the road, hit a telephone pole, and she died. What followed were decades of paralyzing guilt, shame, sorrow, and self-loathing — along with a desperate need to somehow repay the life he had taken. The transition from cultural critique to raw personal confession is swift and disarming, and it makes everything that follows land with unusual force.
Driving home late one night, Gregg Ward was paying more attention to his girlfriend Michelle than the road. He hit a telephone pole. She died. For decades after, he was brought to his knees by guilt, shame, and a desperate need to repay what he had taken.
