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By some estimates, dads' daily parenting time has tripled or quadrupled compared to fathers in the 1950s and 60s, with millennial and Gen Z dads spending more time with kids than any previous generation.
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Darby Saxbe frames the modern father's transformation with historical sweep. By some estimates, dads today spend three to four times more daily time parenting than their 1950s counterparts, with millennial dads at record levels and Gen Z dads pushing higher still — a shift accelerated by the pandemic's forced co-parenting experiment. [1] — Darby Saxbe "Dads' parenting time tripled or quadrupled: By some estimates, dads' daily parenting time has tripled or quadrupled compared to fathers in …" 02:23 To explain why paternal roles are so culturally variable, Saxbe introduces two contrasting African hunter-gatherer societies. The Aka of the Congo practice cooperative net hunting as couples, which makes strict role specialisation economically illogical — fathers spend extensive time within arm's reach of infants as a result. Just one day's drive away, the Kipsigis prohibit fathers from even picking up babies in their first year, believing a father's masculinity would compromise an infant's development. These examples make the point that there is no universal model of fatherhood — roles track closely with how a society generates its resources.
The Aka people of the Congo, a hunter-gatherer society, have fathers who spend extensive time within arm's reach of infants and are heavily involved in caregiving — reflecting the egalitarian, cooperative foraging model.
In the Aka of the Congo, fathers spend extensive time within arm's reach of infants — because cooperative net hunting means there's no economic reason to specialize parenting roles. One day's drive away, Kipsigis fathers are prohibited from even picking up babies under one year old, because their riskier slash-and-burn economy demands strict role separation.
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