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Incel communities ostracise members who improve their situation ('ascending') because one person's success proves the problem is not a life sentence, threatening the group's shared identity.
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Jett frames narcissism as a spectrum: an empty backpack is neutral self-regard, rocks are self-doubt and imposter syndrome, and healthy narcissism is a jetpack that propels you up the mountain. [1] — Jett Franzen "Everyone has narcissism on a spectrum. Empty backpack is neutral self-regard; rocks are self-doubt; healthy narcissism is a jetpack. Jett a…" 1:24:00 He's clear this isn't about superiority — it's about refusing to let doubt be the default, knowing that everything regresses to the identity you hold of yourself. He grew up being told he was 'self-absorbed,' but he reframes it: that was the only workable strategy. The predictable pushback from family and community drives his thesis that a lot of performative humility is cope — people who didn't get to where they wanted to be retreating into the inner citadel of 'but I'm humble.' Chris complicates this by noting that ego is genuinely antisocial: it throws other people's shortcomings into harsh contrast and threatens the social order. Humility, even performed humility, binds the group because it signals no one is being left behind. In the UK's centuries-old ossified class structure, the threat of someone thinking too highly of themselves registers as a genuine destabilisation of power. Chris admits you can hear class in a single sentence of speech — the sedimentary rock of a thousand years without invasion. Timothée Chalamet's 'I'm on the pursuit of greatness' acceptance speech is used as a case study: most people with self-belief read that as inspiring; insecure people chose to read it as narcissism.
Incel communities exile members who 'ascend' — improve their situation with women — and label them 'fake incels.' The logic is merciless: one person's escape proves everyone else has agency, which the group cannot tolerate. It's the narcissism of shared suffering weaponised against hope.
Everyone has narcissism on a spectrum. Empty backpack is neutral self-regard; rocks are self-doubt; healthy narcissism is a jetpack. Jett argues that relentlessly building self-belief — not arrogance, not superiority — is the only mechanism that can push you up the mountain.
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