Snapshot · The Mel Robbins Podcast
When people lie, they deviate from their personal baseline by adding unnecessary details, speeding up or slowing down — and people who know them can detect this shift.
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Mel and Oz agree on something counterintuitive: your gut is usually right, and the problem is that people talk themselves out of it. Kids who claim to be innocent are usually lying. That first-date discomfort doesn't get better by the sixth date. Intuition, Oz explains, is simply subconscious pattern recognition — thousands of data points about a person's behavior processed without conscious awareness. When that pattern breaks, the brain signals something is wrong. His framework for detecting deception operates the same way: there are no universal lying cues, but when someone you know starts embellishing details they never normally include, or changes the cadence and speed of their speech, they're deviating from their personal baseline. The person who calls in sick and describes fever, chills, and a full medical history is almost certainly lying — a genuinely sick person just says 'I feel terrible, I can't make it.' Oz recommends consciously studying people's normal patterns so that deviations register clearly.
You can't memorize a universal lying tell — but you can notice when someone deviates from their own normal patterns. Unnecessary embellishment, changes in cadence and detail level, and your gut reaction are all statistically reliable signals when you already know the person.
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