Snapshot · The School of Greatness
Sheleana planned to remain single for three years after her divorce but met her future husband Ben within 7 to 8 months of starting her healing journey.
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After the intensity of her healing work, Sheleana felt footing return within a couple of months and declared she would be single for three years. Seven or eight months later, after multiple failed attempts to arrange a meeting, she bumped into Ben at a coffee shop — unbrushed hair, pajamas, no artifice. The recognition was immediate and physical: she wrapped her arms around him to warm him up and denied to herself that this was happening. Ben, who had planned to stay single until 35, eventually married her at 35. What differentiated this relationship from every prior one was the pace: no sex for months, deliberate friendship-building, the chance to assess whether she could spend ten thousand meals with this person. The chemical sexual bond, once formed, Lewis notes, makes it nearly impossible to objectively evaluate a partner — and both he and Sheleana had learned this the hard way. [1] — Sheleana Aiyana "After planning three years of singlehood, Sheleana met Ben in a coffee shop within eight months, still in her pajamas with unbrushed hair. …" 31:35
After planning three years of singlehood, Sheleana met Ben in a coffee shop within eight months, still in her pajamas with unbrushed hair. Neither had planned it. What made it different from every prior relationship was the slowness — they didn't sleep together for months — allowing them to see the full person before hormones took over.
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