Son is now 21
Sarah's son, born when she was 14, is now 21 and thriving — a milestone she uses as a practice of gratitude, revisiting the moment through the eyes of her 13-year-old self.
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How to Become the Most Confident Version of Yourself & Step Into Your Power
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Jun 20, 2026
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Rest, Reconciliation, and the Inner 13-Year-Old
At 46:34 · chapter starts 46:00
When Mel asks what Sarah does to stay grounded in her power, the answer begins with rest. Not just sleep but spiritual rest — allowing her brain to decompress through gratitude, prayer, meditation, and genuine reflection. The most vivid practice she describes is letting the 13-year-old girl who heard 'you're nasty,' 'you're a slut,' 'there's something wrong with you' actually listen to what people say about Sarah now. [1] — Sarah Jakes Roberts "Son is now 21: Sarah's son, born when she was 14, is now 21 and thriving — a milestone she uses as a practice of gratitude, revisiting the …" 46:34 This inner child work — the grown woman taking the little girl's hand and saying 'look, you made it' — is how Sarah keeps herself from the autopilot of achievement. She also shares a remarkable statement of contentment: she is in the overflow right now. If she never wrote another book or recorded another podcast, what has already been built is more than she could have imagined or asked for. It feels greedy to want more.
The 13-Year-Old's Testimony: I Always Knew to Expect This From You
When Sarah got pregnant, someone told her 'I always knew to expect something like this from you' — words she ate for breakfast for 10 years. Then in prayer before a sold-out tour, she felt those same words come back in God's voice, transformed into total affirmation. The very sentence meant to destroy her became her anchor.
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