Boys called Aly Raisman 'roids' and said she looked like she was on steroids starting in 5th grade, which affected her so deeply she only began wearing sleeveless dresses at age 30.
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One of the most quietly devastating passages in the episode is Aly's account of being bullied for her muscles. In 5th grade, boys called her 'roids' and accused her of being on steroids; in 7th grade, a boy told her her arms looked disgusting. The consequences were not brief: at 30 years old, wearing a sleeveless dress at Olympic trials was a genuine milestone that required courage. She calls it 'freeing' — and 'so sad' that it took this long. Alex reflects on how this is also a function of what girls are taught generally: never appear too confident, never draw attention to your accomplishments. Aly links the constant physical critique of her gymnastics training to a learned assumption that everyone in the world is evaluating her the same way — a pattern her therapist is now helping her dismantle. She also shares that this experience has made her intensely afraid of causing that kind of lasting pain in someone else, feeding her social anxiety.
Boys called Aly Raisman 'roids' in 5th grade and told her she looked disgusting in 7th grade. The damage lasted so long that she only wore a sleeveless dress in public for the first time at age 30 — at Olympic trials. That milestone felt genuinely freeing.
Aly Raisman wore a sleeveless dress at Olympic trials at age 30 for the first time, calling it a significant milestone after decades of hiding her muscular arms.
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