Snapshot · Call Her Daddy
Wilde was ranked #1 on Maxim's Hottest 100 list, and her publicist asked if she wanted to accept it. She did, acknowledging it was 'fucked up' but admitting her inner insecure teenage self was validated.
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Cooper steers into the territory of appearance and objectification in Wilde's career. Wilde says she never felt she fit conventional beauty standards growing up, so when Maxim's standards happened to shift to fit her, she was blindsided. Her publicist called and offered her the choice to accept or decline being #1 on the Hottest 100 — and the part of her that had always felt like the awkward outsider couldn't resist saying yes [1] — Olivia Wilde "Being ranked #1 on the Maxim Hot 100 felt like validation for the girl who never fit in — and that was exactly the danger. Wilde spent year…" 43:00 . She traces the danger from there: once you are publicly ranked, you must maintain the rank, and the same mechanism that called you the hottest will inevitably call you the ugliest. Cooper and Wilde riff on how beauty standards for women shift constantly — heroin chic to curves, Audrey Hepburn to Gisele — while men's standards have barely moved in a century.
Being ranked #1 on the Maxim Hot 100 felt like validation for the girl who never fit in — and that was exactly the danger. Wilde spent years unraveling how she'd handed her self-worth over to a fickle, subjective machine that will inevitably flip to calling you the ugliest.
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