Both Colman Domingo and Amy Poehler are Enneagram Type 8s (the Challenger), a personality type that is highly motivated by challenges — Domingo discovered this when Tina Fey made him take the test on the set of The Four Seasons.
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Amy observes that Domingo seems like someone who has worked very hard to know himself and show that person to the world. Domingo confirms it was a deliberate process that began at 18, when he worked in the self-help and travel sections of a Barnes & Noble in Philadelphia and read voraciously about how to become a different person — trying on new ways of walking, speaking, pitching his voice. 'All of this has been a bit manufactured,' he admits candidly. But the real turning point came in college, when acting teacher Chris Wolfe told him for the first time in his life that he had a gift — and challenged him to follow it. Domingo identifies as an Enneagram Type 8, and Amy reveals she is too — both having discovered this when Tina Fey made Domingo take the test on the set of The Four Seasons. [1] — Colman Domingo "Colman Domingo was a bookish, awkward teenager who never went to school dances. At 18, he worked at Barnes & Noble and devoured self-help b…" 23:15 The challenge embedded in Wolfe's words is exactly what an Enneagram 8 needs to hear.
Colman Domingo was hospitalized as a child with severe asthma. When his mother Edith picked him up at night, the city's Christmas lights were blazing. She looked at him and said, 'They all put up their lights to welcome you back home.' That single sentence captures the entire foundation of who he became.
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