A 70-year-old car driver in Toronto gave Colman Domingo the life advice 'hope for everything, want for nothing' when Domingo was turning 50, which he says transformed his approach to work.
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The question Spielberg asked Amy to raise lands with weight: did Colman ever not get a part he desperately wanted? The answer is yes, many times. But over time he developed a practice of divorcing himself from outcome — understanding that when people truly want him, they want all of him, and when they don't, it simply means someone else served their needs better. This isn't passivity; it's what he calls 'being sober about it.' The deepest articulation of this philosophy came from an unexpected source: a 70-year-old car driver in Toronto who, when Domingo was turning 50, offered the advice 'hope for everything, want for nothing.' [1] — Colman Domingo "A 70-year-old Uber driver in Toronto, unprompted, gave Domingo the best advice he ever received: 'Hope for everything, want for nothing.' E…" 1:06:43 Eliminating want — the perpetual reaching — is what allows Domingo to walk into any room to give rather than take. Amy distils it even more bluntly: 'Hell is wanting more.'
A 70-year-old Uber driver in Toronto, unprompted, gave Domingo the best advice he ever received: 'Hope for everything, want for nothing.' Eliminating want — the perpetual grabbing — is what allows Domingo to walk into any room and give freely rather than take.
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