Mindy had 3 children
With three kids, Mindy says her biggest non-creative goal is simply being genuinely present for them — something her hardworking OB-GYN mother didn't always manage.
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Mindy's Personal EGOT: Movies, Kids, Teaching, and Grand Dame Status
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Answering Avantika's question in the episode's most reflective passage, Mindy outlines the things she still wants. First: writing and directing films, inspired by Jordan Peele's journey from sketch comedy and Greta Gerwig's from actress-muse to Barbie director. Second: being genuinely present for her three children in a way that they'll look back on fondly — something her brilliant but perpetually delivering-babies mother couldn't always manage. Mindy says her mom set a high bar professionally and an inadvertently high bar parentally, and she's trying to thread the needle between both. Amy paints a seductive picture of teaching a Dartmouth class in a beautiful sweater at 10am, and Mindy is charmed. She also looks forward to the TV trope of the 'decrepit grand dame' who shows up, says a couple of killer lines, and gets everyone screaming — she wants to get there.
Mindy's mom missed Thanksgivings delivering babies
Mindy Kaling's OB-GYN mother missed Thanksgivings and school plays to care for patients — a sacrifice Mindy found glamorous as a child but now grapples with as a mother of three.
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