Mold from missing flashing
Shane discovered extensive mold and black rotted plywood throughout his new home's front wall due to builders omitting flashing and seam tape.
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Mold in Shane's House
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Shane's house has mold — a discovery that started in Maya's room and expanded into something far worse [1] — Shane Gillis "Shane discovered mold in his daughter's room and then found the entire front wall of his new house was black rotted plywood due to missing …" 43:04 . An investigation revealed that the builder left out flashing along a large stretch of the front exterior and omitted the tape sealing the seams, allowing years of moisture infiltration. The front plywood is entirely black and rotted, looking like the house survived a fire. Fortunately, the builder honored the warranty and sent a crew to fix it the same week. Shane, having just returned from a run, greeted the workers shirtless and drenched in sweat and kept drifting uncomfortably close to them during conversation — a power move he describes with great satisfaction.
Mold Found in Shane's New House
Shane discovered mold in his daughter's room and then found the entire front wall of his new house was black rotted plywood due to missing flashing and seam tape. Builders came to fix it while he greeted them shirtless and sweaty, punishing them up close.
Swim Dad Horror: High School Boys in Speedos
Shane is now a swim dad, and the experience is deeply uncomfortable: chiseled high school boys walking around in their underwear while everyone acts like it's completely normal. He's the only one willing to say something is wrong here.
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