Surrogacy took 2–2.5 years
Colton and Jordan began the surrogacy process before their wedding and it took approximately two to two-and-a-half years before their son Bishop was born.
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Jun 16, 2026
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Going Through Surrogacy in the USA
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Colton unpacks the legal landscape of same-sex family building in the US with striking specificity. He cites Family Equality's finding that 13 states still permit open discrimination against same-sex couples in adoption [1] — Colton Underwood "In 13 US states it's still legal to refuse same-sex couples in adoption. Colton and Jordan navigated two-plus years of surrogacy, birth cer…" 1:21:43 . He describes birth certificates listing a surrogate or egg donor as a parent, nurses refusing to admit both fathers, and the enormous financial burden — most insurance still does not cover IVF. In California, he and Jordan were able to list 'Parent 1' and 'Parent 2,' a detail that felt small but mattered enormously on the day Bishop was born. His central argument: the deliberateness and cost of the surrogacy process is itself a testament to the quality of the parents who undertake it.
The Surrogacy Battle and the Fight for Equal Parenting Rights
In 13 US states it's still legal to refuse same-sex couples in adoption. Colton and Jordan navigated two-plus years of surrogacy, birth certificates listing wrong parents, and nurses refusing entry — and Colton argues the sheer intentionality of the process proves gay parents' commitment before day one.
13 US states allow discrimination against same-sex adoption
In 13 US states it is still legal to openly discriminate against same-sex couples seeking to adopt, according to the organisation Family Equality.
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