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Colton Underwood: I Thought The Bachelor Would Make Me Straight “I Prayed To God”
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Jun 16, 2026
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The Fence Jump That Changed The Bachelor
At 48:57 · chapter starts 48:14
When Colton discovered producers had manipulated his top-3 relationships — the only thing he'd asked them not to do — he headed for the fence. He explains the physics dispassionately: adrenaline is powerful, the gate was locked, he cleared a 6-footer in boots and jeans [1] — Colton Underwood "Jumped 6-foot fence in Portugal on The Bachelor: Colton famously jumped a 6-foot fence in Portugal after discovering producers had manipula…" 50:10 . The escape plan was methodical: find the US Embassy, get an emergency passport, book his own flights home from Portugal. Instead he got lost for two hours wandering alone in the dark. Paul's question — 'Were you trying to escape the show, or the facade you'd built over the years?' — produces the most reflective answer of the episode. Colton agrees it was both: a culmination of 'what the hell am I doing?' that extended far beyond reality television.
The Fence Jump: Escaping the Show and the Facade
Colton jumped a 6-foot fence in Portugal in boots and jeans when he discovered producers had broken his only rule. He wandered alone for two hours. Paul's observation cuts deeper: Colton wasn't just escaping the show — he was trying to escape the facade he'd built over 17 years.
Jumped 6-foot fence in Portugal on The Bachelor
Colton famously jumped a 6-foot fence in Portugal after discovering producers had manipulated his Bachelor season, and then wandered for 2 hours trying to escape.
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