Wallo's grandmother, whose home he returned to upon release, is still alive at 92 years old — a milestone he had feared she would not reach while he was inside.
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Wallo's grandmother, whose home he returned to upon release, is still alive at 92 years old — a milestone he had feared she would not reach while he was inside.
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Steve was released from prison around 2009 and didn't make it long in the free world. He was shot, ran to their grandmother's house, and died in her arms — she had heard the gunshots just before he reached her door. Wallo, still incarcerated, saw the news report before he knew who the victim was. He recognized the building — Nanny's house. He got on the phone and it became real. The grief was like nothing he had felt before. Two brothers raised in the same house, same circumstances, both cycling through the same system — and now one of them was gone while the other was still inside. The loss, Wallo says, was pain he had never experienced. His grandmother, who would be turning 92 at the time of recording, held Steve as he died.
When his brother Steve was shot and died in their grandmother's arms, Wallo learned about it watching the news in prison. He chose forgiveness over revenge — not out of weakness, but because revenge doesn't always go your way, and Steve's kids needed someone still standing.
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