Snapshot · We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson
Briel's husband Adam drove her 10 hours from Salt Lake City to Los Angeles for the podcast recording, and they drove 10 hours back — demonstrating his commitment as a supportive partner.
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Asked which conversation has stood out most in her life, Briel doesn't point to a stage or a grand public moment. She points to a recurring one with her husband: what would you do if I died? Adam's answer is that he'd have her turned into a diamond necklace and wear her every day. It's romantic in the most precise, specific sense — and it illustrates the lesson she offers: keep having the hard conversations, because they're what make relationships strong and love durable. Paul closes the episode with his own takeaway, referencing a previous conversation with Dr. Amir Levine on attachment theory, noting that a secure partner heals us — and seeing in Briel and Adam's story a living example of exactly that. Adam, he notes, drove ten hours from Salt Lake City for this conversation, and will drive ten hours back. That, Paul says, is what love looks like as a verb.
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