Engaged after 9 months of dating
Briel and Adam got engaged after 9 months of dating, with Briel noting Adam was 27 at the time — considered a 'very late bloomer' by Utah standards.
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Born With No Limbs: I Didn't Want To Be Their Poster Child! Briel Adams-Wheatley
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Jun 23, 2026
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The First Relationship That Felt Safe
At 1:15:13 · chapter starts 1:10:47
The contrast between Adam and every man before him is established in the opening minutes of their first date. He wanted to go to a public coffee shop — 'I want people to see I'm on a date with you.' He met her family without being pushed, played with the children, and said he wouldn't do anything for her unless she asked what she needed. When Briel later wore a bold makeup look he didn't personally like, he heard her response — 'this is my face, not yours' — and immediately conceded, telling her that if it made her feel confident, he was on board. That single moment, she says, told her he would always have her back even when he disagreed. The road wasn't perfectly smooth: after two weeks she asked for a break because she was so unused to being treated with basic respect that she didn't know how to process it. Her mother and sister-in-law overruled her. She and Adam got engaged nine months later. [1] — Briel Adams-Wheatley "After being sexually assaulted multiple times and exclusively dating online to feel safe, Briel met Adam on Tinder. His first date was coff…" 1:10:25 [2] — Briel Adams-Wheatley "I need a break from you. I need to go do some soul searching with myself on why I have a problem with you treating me so kindly, because I'…" 1:11:37
The Second Wedding — This Time in a Dress
Briel and Adam are remarrying three weeks after the recording because Briel transitioned two years into their marriage. The first wedding was before her full transition. This time she walks down the aisle in a dress. 'It's literally going to be déjà vu, but me in a dress this time.'
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