Know Your Value book launched in 2011
Mika Brzezinski's book Know Your Value, which launched a global movement, was published in 2011 and remains relevant today.
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Jul 10, 2026
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Mika and Katty: Old Friends, Enduring Mission
At 5:04 · chapter starts 3:51
The conversation opens warmly, with Mika noting that she and Katty have been 'OGs' — screaming about confidence and knowing your value from rooftops long before it became mainstream. Katty points out that her first book came out in 2008 and Mika's Know Your Value in 2011, and both wonder whether the problems have been solved yet — and agree they haven't. Mika argues there has been real backsliding, pointing specifically to the US political landscape, the erosion of Roe v. Wade, and the broader cultural forces that have chipped away at women's confidence and sense of value. Far from the conversation being obsolete, both agree it is more urgent than it has been in years.
The Know Your Value Origin Story
Mika Brzezinski signed her Morning Joe contract for far less than her co-hosts — not because she was cheated, but because she didn't negotiate. Fresh from a year of unemployment, she lunged for stability instead of recognising that the show needed her as much as she needed it.
Morning Joe contract signed below co-host pay
Mika Brzezinski signed her Morning Joe contract for far less than her co-hosts because her confidence was low after a year of unemployment and she didn't negotiate.
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